She Got Married And Moved Out To The Suburbs, But She Hates It And Wants To Move Back To New York City
This 25-year-old woman got married to her 30-year-old husband one year ago, and she’s not exactly happy with where she is in life right now.
Everything started five years ago when she moved from Europe to New York City. She had three awful jobs and worked her heart out to “make it” in the city.
“I think I girlbossed too hard and now don’t know what to do,” she admitted.
Before she tied the knot with her husband a year ago, she was pretty much forced to move to the suburbs of Pennsylvania.
What she means by that is if she didn’t agree to move with her husband, they had no choice but to break up, and that was not what she wanted.
“At the time, the most important thing to me was to be with him, I didn’t want to regret leaving someone who I knew I was going to marry,” she explained.
“Fast forward a year, I absolutely hate living in the suburbs. I don’t drive (and I’ve been too busy to learn), I have no friends here, and I found a job that ended up traumatizing me with how toxic it was.”
“I left multiple incredible friends in New York, people I consider and love like family, I left a job I loved, and I left my favorite city I’ve ever lived in.”
She is utterly depressed, and all of her ambition has up and left her body. She is no longer motivated to do anything with her life.
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She’s beginning to think maybe her husband is not the man of her dreams. He is a wonderful man, but they want lives that are totally different. She doesn’t ever go out or really leave their house, and the only person she sees or spends time with is her husband.
She never gets to do anything alone anymore. She did end up leaving her toxic job behind, which is good, and she has been completing some graphic design classes so she can leave the industry she’s working in.
But even that isn’t something that really interests her anymore. She just has zero motivation.
“I would be more than happy to live by myself in NYC and have a whatever job and all that, I just don’t really feel like hustling in a place where people go to bed at 7 pm,” she said.
“I feel like I’m one of those people who get heavily influenced by their environment. Moving to NYC as a couple is not an option, my husband refuses to.”
“I can’t stand the suburbs, especially thinking about having kids and being a mom here for the rest of my life.”
What do you think she should do, and do you think there’s a way for her and her husband to compromise on the different things they want in life?
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