She Went To A Hotel And Told Her Husband That She Can’t Stay With Him While Their Newborn Is Still Young Because Her Stepkids Lack Boundaries
This woman has three stepchildren, who are mostly wonderful children.
She has two stepsons, 12 and 8, and an 8-year-old stepdaughter.
Over the last six years, they have been a part of her life, and she has always had a great relationship with them.
For the most part, she’s also had a friendly relationship with her stepchildren’s mother, but she has been dealing with a stressful and frustrating situation that not everyone can agree on.
Three weeks ago, she gave birth to a daughter.
She anticipated dealing with difficult behavior, but she can’t handle it anymore.
“So, basically, whenever I’m nursing the baby, my stepkids are either trying to hug her or kiss her or get right down and talk to her while I’m exposed. Almost every single feeding. They refuse to leave the baby alone when I’m nursing, despite me voicing several times how uncomfortable it makes me feel that I have four kids hanging off of me while I’m trying to nurse,” she said.
In her view, it’s completely unacceptable behavior for them to be leaning down to kiss the baby while she’s feeding her.
Also, while her daughter is taking a nap, her stepchildren enter her room, touch her, play with her feet, or even rub her head. This causes her daughter to wake up, leading to her being irritable because she’s not sleeping enough or has disturbed sleep.
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Numerous times, she’s expressed to her stepchildren and her husband to stop disturbing the baby while she’s sleeping and how crucial it is that they let her sleep, but none of them listen.
“And they are always loud about it, too. Whenever they talk to her, it’s basically them screaming. Like, if she starts to fuss, they are immediately right down in her face saying, ‘HEY! You stop that right now!’ I’m getting nauseous. I barely eat because this entire environment is making me sick to my stomach,” she explained.
Now, she’s unbearably uneasy being around her husband and stepchildren because they don’t respect her boundaries, don’t listen when she expresses what her boundaries are, and don’t even care.
Yesterday morning, she put her daughter down for a nap, and her youngest stepchild woke up the baby with yelling.
Once her daughter began crying, all three of her stepchildren also went running up and got in her daughter’s face– not moving or allowing her to pick up her daughter.
Only ten minutes later, she started feeding her daughter, and her stepdaughter came over and put her head on her arm, right next to where she was exposed, touching her baby.
Immediately, she stood up and started packing a bag.
She then informed her husband that she wasn’t going to stay at home with him and her stepchildren while their daughter was so young and fragile because she couldn’t cope with them refusing to respect and listen to the boundaries that she deserved.
“Both he and my stepchildren’s mother are saying I’m a jerk because the kids are just excited, and I’m taking this experience away from them by being ‘greedy and weird.’ I’m just tired and grossed out by the lack of consideration and people constantly near me while I’m exposed as if it isn’t inappropriate,” she shared.
Now, she and her baby are staying in a hotel for the time being.
She clarified that she adores her stepchildren, but she obviously wants them to respect her privacy and boundaries when she’s feeding her daughter.
She also doesn’t think it should be too much to ask for her stepchildren to leave her daughter alone while she’s sleeping so that she doesn’t become irritable and sleep-deprived.
While at the hotel, she will allow her husband and her stepchildren to see the baby whenever they want to, but she needs to have her space for a while.
What would you have done if you were in her shoes?
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