After A Second Date With A Guy, He Rated Her Appearance, So She Told Him To Lose Her Number
This 31-year-old woman went on two dates with a 40-year-old guy named Dan. Their very first date was super intense and lasted an entire 24 hours.
She ended up sleeping with Dan on their first date, which is something she never does, but she really liked him and was feeling adventurous.
“Dan and I have great chemistry in all areas, however, Dan has a lot of baggage, including two divorces and a child who is the result of a one-time encounter,” she explained.
“I’m not interested in being a stepmother at this stage of my life and would not have gone on the date had I known about the child, but he waited until midway through dinner to tell me — I figured I’d enjoy the date, continue to see him if I wanted to, and decide in a few weeks if it’s a situation I could see myself in long term.”
“During our second date at his house, he asked a lot of questions about my previous relationships, one of which caused me to become emotional. After I cried, I realized I had probably drank more wine than I had intended to and put myself to bed.”
Later on, she texted Dan to say that she was sorry for getting so emotional, especially considering the fact that they were freshly dating.
Dan texted her back a hot/crazy matrix, which had a red dot at the matrix of 8 x 8 (you can Google this for a visual).
Dan then said that this is where she was on the scale. Since she and Dan both share in a dark sense of humor, she thought his reply was funny, and she was happy that he was trying to make light of things.
She wittily replied back that she was fine with the crazy score but that Dan had better adjust the score for her appearance.
Alen Ajan – stock.adobe.com – illustrative purposes only, not the actual person
Well, it was then that things took a bad turn. Dan then said that she got a 7 for her body and a 9 for her face and that he would rate her a solid 8.
She asked Dan if he was joking, and he couldn’t believe that she was upset. He informed her that 8 is a wonderful score, and that puts her in the top half of the girls that he has dated.
She then told Dan he better lose her phone number. She’s unsure, however, if she did overreact though to Dan rating her appearance.
“The way I explained it to my best friend, I know I’m not a 10 on the global scale, but I want to be a 10 to the man I’m dating/sleeping with,” she said.
“Not to mention, I never asked him to rate me – he thought it was appropriate to offer this information up unprompted. For context, I’ve done a lot of dating this year, and only one fling has ended with so much as an argument, and even that argument didn’t involve jabs surrounding appearance.”
“Even when my ex-boyfriend was dumping me in January, he described me as “the most beautiful girl he’s ever met.” As mentioned, I don’t really care if there are other women who are more attractive than me. But something about the man I’m dating insinuating that I’m not a 10 really threw me off the edge.”
She’s left wondering if she was wrong to react so poorly to Dan rating her appearance at a solid 8.
What do you think?
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