She Told Her Husband And Son That After Thanksgiving Dinner, She’s Never Cooking For Them Again
This woman really loves cooking. It’s a huge passion of hers, and she loves that cooking combines science and art.
She finds fulfillment and happiness when she’s able to perfect a particular dish and feels accomplished if she successfully replicates a recipe that someone remembers only bits and pieces of from when they were a child.
Sometimes, she works on a recipe for several weeks or months, making changes here and there and noting the alterations until she feels like she’s satisfied with the final results of the best bread she could bake or making a cake going off of limited details someone provides that they remember their grandmother making but they no longer have the recipe.
“As such, the kitchen is normally my little domain, and I enjoy stocking it with equipment that is good quality or that I simply enjoy using/seeing. Unfortunately, my husband and son view kitchen equipment simply as tools, like a hammer or screwdriver. They are meant to do a job, and if they and if they get damaged or lost, they are meant to be replaced,” she said.
Her husband and son’s disrespect for her kitchen equipment has frustrated her in the past and has caused a lot of issues.
Over time, she felt like she came to a sense of acceptance with the fact that maybe some of her property being damaged or lost was just to be expected. However, the disrespect recently went too far. Not long ago, she left town for the week.
“Since I came back, it seems like every day, I find something else that was damaged or lost since I was gone. Vintage Tupperware lids melted, half of a set of measuring spoons missing, salt and pepper shakers both cracked and my favorite spatula rusted from soaking in water for who knows how long. The straw that broke the camel’s back is the carving knife,” she explained.
Once she returned home, she wasn’t able to find her carving knife anywhere, and her husband and son apparently had no idea where it went.
Unfortunately, the knife that went missing is part of a knife set that is no longer being produced, and it was pretty pricey. It also matches the most expensive cookware that she owns.
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She and her husband both looked online to try to find the same carving knife so that it could be replaced. They couldn’t track it down anywhere.
“The only option is a new knife that doesn’t match the set or a new set of knives that don’t match the cookware. I’m beyond upset. I like my things to match. I enjoy using nice things that look nice when I cook, and I’m tired of them being lost or destroyed. I save up for nice kitchen items or request them for Christmas gifts,” she shared.
Constantly replacing items adds up, so they can’t afford to keep up with it. The only way they’d be able to afford it is to buy lower-quality items or hunt for kitchen equipment at thrift stores.
She’s spoken with both her husband and her son about this ongoing problem over the years, and she expressed that it’s crucial for them to be careful with the kitchen equipment when they need to make food.
This most recent incident was her breaking point. She told them that she was over it and she would no longer cook for them from now on.
Because they constantly ruin or lose her kitchenware, she doesn’t have fun cooking anymore. The frustration and disrespect are just too much, and it no longer feels worth it for her.
Then, she continued and told her husband and son that they could have the kitchen to themselves going forward and cook for themselves. She said that it was up to them to cook their own meals.
In addition, she told them that they have passions of their own, and they’d be furious with her if she destroyed something they needed for their hobby on a regular basis.
She clarified that she would still make Thanksgiving dinner, but after that, she wouldn’t be cooking for them anymore.
After this, her husband and son were silent and seemed pretty depressed, and that made her feel like it was her fault. She hadn’t intended to upset them or let them down.
While she obviously cares about her family and loves them very much, she doesn’t want to put up with their lack of respect any longer, and she’s tired of feeling frustrated every time she cooks.
At the same time, she feels like she’s going through a grieving process because she’s giving up one of her biggest passions in life and something she loves to do because other people have ruined it for her and frustrated her.
Now, she wonders if she made too big of a deal about the situation. She isn’t sure if she should try to move on or if the onus should be on her husband and son to learn how to respect her property.
What advice would you give her?
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