His Wife Wants To Quit College For The Third Time To Stay Home Unemployed, So He’s Considering A Divorce

Around four years ago, this 27-year-old man’s 27-year-old wife mentioned to him out of nowhere that she couldn’t handle college.
He tried his best to support his wife and said she could quit, and they could find her a job while figuring out what she should do from there.
So, his wife dropped out of college, and he spent quite some time supporting them financially until his wife secured a job.
Then, two years ago, his wife unexpectedly got pregnant, and he felt so secure in their relationship that he was happy to keep their baby.
His wife went on maternity leave, and then said she would like to go back to college in her time off from her job.
It took his wife a bit to choose a degree, and she eventually selected the same major she had previously dropped out of college for.
His wife thought she could pick up where she had left off, and he questioned her about if she was concerned about being able to complete her degree.
His wife reassured him that she felt more grown up after becoming a mom, so she was ready for the challenge.
His wife ultimately went to college for one consecutive month before insisting she dreaded it and had terrible anxiety.

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He was irritated, as his wife promised all that was behind her. However, he and his wife discussed her getting help, and she began taking medication to treat the anxiety she was diagnosed with.
Over the next six months, his wife didn’t attend college as she worked through figuring out her medication, and he had no problem with that.
“I told her then that I was starting to get worried about our future together if she didn’t figure out her school/work situation,” he explained.
“Future plans kept getting pushed back, and me taking care of 90 % of our bills again was taking a toll on me.”
“She then assured me, like last time, that things were going to work out, as her medication was working wonders. This seemed to be true, as she seemed happier and more motivated than ever.”
Earlier this week, his wife started talking about her anxiety coming up when she thought about going back to school.
He feels his wife has stayed at home with nothing to do for too long (close to two years now), which has only made her anxiety increase.
Today, his wife shared some awful news with him that she feels like she has just been paying him and everyone else lip service and that she never once believed she could complete college.
“I basically told her that I felt betrayed, and she told me she didn’t do it consciously, as her anxiety didn’t allow her to be honest with herself,” he explained.
“I feel [terrible], and like I’m enabling her to not move on with her work life. I want to tell her that she needs to figure her [stuff] out; otherwise, I’m out. At the same time, we have a kid and 9 pretty great years together. I’m not sure I want to throw all that away.”
“Practically speaking, I’ll be fine if we end things, as I have a great network and a fairly wealthy family. She, on the other hand, would be pretty much on her own, as her family is…unreliable.”
So, this marks the third time in four years that his wife has quit going to college, and this is making it hard for him to picture spending the rest of his life with her since she’s pretty unmotivated in life.
He’s left wondering what he should do and if it makes sense for him to divorce his wife now. What do you think?
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