She Said Her 20-Year-Old Daughter’s New Boyfriend, Who Is 44, Isn’t Welcome In Their Home, But Now She’s Afraid Of Losing Her Daughter
For many parents, one of their biggest fears is that their kid will get into a relationship with an older person who wants to take advantage of them.
One woman recently told her daughter she couldn’t bring her boyfriend back to their family home because he’s over 20 years older than her, and she doesn’t approve of their relationship.
She and her husband are in their late 40s and have a 20-year-old daughter named Ellie, who’s in college.
A few months ago, Ellie revealed she had a boyfriend named Tom, and they had been together for five months. While she was extremely happy for Ellie, she couldn’t help but notice how secretive she was regarding Tom.
“Usually, she’s an open book, especially with me, and would always share details of her personal life,” she said.
“On this occasion, she wouldn’t show any pictures, and we knew next to no information about Tom other than that they met at a party through a mutual friend.”
Ellie’s been out of school for over a month and spent the first month of her summer in her college town. Then, she had plans to fly home for a nice, long visit. Before flying home, Ellie asked her and her husband if she could bring Tom, saying they had become serious and that she wanted them to meet him.
Since they knew Tom was an important part of her life, she and her husband agreed to let him visit. However, they were in for a big surprise when they met him in person.
When they picked up Ellie and Tom from their airport, they were shocked, as he was visibly older than her and was clearly not a college student. However, they tried to remain calm and get to know him before freaking out.
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“When we arrived home, my husband point blank asked Tom how old he was, and Tom said he was 44,” she recalled.
“I was immediately disgusted, as he’s only two years younger than my husband and old enough to be Ellie’s father. My husband continued to interrogate him, asking how they met and the whole background.”
Ellie told her and her husband that she met Tom at a party; they had a lot in common and hit it off. She could hardly listen to any more of their back story, and her husband eventually snapped and told Tom to leave.
Ellie begged them to give Tom a chance, saying he made her extremely happy and that their attitude toward him was unfair.
“Tom could sense the tension, so he left, and Ellie followed behind him,” she added.
“I texted Ellie to tell her we’d love to see her and to come over to discuss the situation. She asked if Tom was welcome, and I said he wasn’t.”
Ellie became angrier and told her that she and Tom would be staying at a local hotel, catching up with some of her hometown friends instead of returning home.
While she doesn’t want to lose her close bond with Ellie and feels bad about all the drama, her husband refuses to have Tom in their home, and she still isn’t thrilled about their relationship.
What would you do if you were in her position?
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