Her Friends Think Her Husband Isn't Her Soulmate, Since She Said She Hopes He Finds Love Again If Anything Happens To Her

One of the most interesting hypothetical questions you can ask yourself is, would you approve of your spouse finding love again if anything ever happened to you? It's easy to romanticize the concept of forever, but love and loss don't follow neat rules, now do they?

She wasn't dismissing her marriage or downplaying her emotions for her husband; she was trying to be open about the reality of life moving on after losing someone important to you.

She sees love as something that can be found again, even after heartbreak, and for that, she was met with judgment from people who couldn't separate their emotions from the concept of soulmates.

This woman and her husband recently went out to dinner with some of their closest friends. During their meal, someone brought up wills and who would be responsible for caring for their children in the event of their death.

Many other hypotheticals were broached at the restaurant, and she chimed in that if she died, she would like her husband to spend a minimum of one to two years grieving her before getting remarried.

She added that people need companions, and she would want her daughter to have a woman in their house to look up to. Her husband, attempting to be a sweetie, shrugged like he would never be interested in getting married for a second time.

Well, her friends got upset about the concept of remarrying, and they stated that grandmas and aunts could provide her daughter with a maternal kind of support if she were no longer around.

They then threw it in her face that there was no way her husband could be her soulmate if she would even think of remarrying.

"I said that I thought it is selfish of me to never want my husband to find love and marry again. Yes, I know he really loved me, but if I’m gone, he needs to keep living. We are 45, so there are many more decades to enjoy. They then got a little snide and said, 'You don’t know what it means to have met your soulmate,'" she explained.

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"I said the idea of a soulmate doesn’t make sense to me because while we have great chemistry and love, that relationships are also about growth and evolving."

"That I’m sure if we scoured the earth, there would be better and more ideal compatible partners, that no one just falls into a 'this one person is the only one I can possibly love' category."

She's honestly still reeling over how her friends reacted.

It takes real emotional maturity to say that if you're no longer here on this earth, you hope your partner finds happiness and love once more.

Her friends clinging to the idea that true love can only happen one time around says more about their own fear of loss than her values.

I think she's got the right mindset and that love doesn't have to stay frozen in time to mean something. If anything, allowing it to evolve, even after loss, shows just how deep it really was. Personally, I wouldn't want my partner to remain single and alone forever.

How do you feel about the sensitive subject?

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