He Left His Fiancée Home Alone For Thanksgiving After She Insisted On Making Her Own Food To Bring To His Parent’s House And He’s Asking The Internet If He Was Wrong
A 20-something-year-old man and has a fiancée who is also in her 20s, and they have been with one another for 3 years.
Most of their relationship was long-distance, and today was going to be his fiancée’s first Thanksgiving spent with his family.
“My mom invited us to attend Thanksgiving dinner and when I told my fiancee about the invitation she asked about what was prepared for dinner and I said the traditional dishes every home prepares and she made a face and said she’ll accept the invitation and go BUT will bring her own cooked food with her,” he explained.
“I was shocked I asked why because as far as I know she’s not allergic nor vegan and she hasn’t even tried my mom’s cooking.”
“She said that is just her choice and wanted to eat something else to add new flavor for thanksgiving since she was always forced to eat the same old traditional meals every year by her family.”
He immediately got upset hearing this and said to his fiancée that it would be rude of her to do that, especially considering she had never even been to his mom and dad’s house for Thanksgiving.
He continued to tell her that she absolutely cannot bring her own food for Thanksgiving, and if that’s how she feels, she can stay home alone because he doesn’t want to upset his mom.
His fiancée accused him of overreacting and trying to control her, before insisting that she should be able to come to Thanksgiving with her food. And by food, she meant a whole meal she was cooking just for herself; not like side dishes to share.
He got tired of arguing with her, so he said he was going to leave and head to his mom and dad’s house, which takes him several hours to drive to.
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“I got in the car with my stuff and left her behind crying,” he said. His fiancée began calling him as soon as he left, and tried to make him feel bad for leaving her behind all alone.
When he got to his mom and dad’s house, he offered up an “excuse” for why she couldn’t be there but he’s still upset by everything.
His fiancée is still trying to make him feel guilty, and she keeps saying he’s a “selfish jerk.”
Here’s what the internet had to say.
“It would have been perfectly acceptable (gracious even) for her to bring a side dish (or two), so long as you cleared that with your mom ahead of time.”
“But to pre-cook and bring her whole meal, and not eat your mother’s food at all, is rude. There’s something more going on here than she is sharing with you.”
“This isn’t her last meal on earth, or the only food she’ll be able to eat for the rest of her life. This is one meal that someone is generously making to share with loved ones.”
“If you’re not a huge fan, you eat a minimal amount and then have a big dessert, stop at burger king on the way home, jam a pb&j in your coat pocket to eat in the car.”
“One of the joys of being an adult and not living with my family is that for dinner, I only have stuff I love.”
“But when I go to visit my family, I know I will not like everything (though my mum is really considerate and each child got one “free” item to ban when we were children and my mum still remembers them, which means we still never have spinach when my youngest sister is around).”
“Being an adult is also seeing that the world does not revolve around you! I get that Thanksgiving is a lot about food.”
“But if you are already cooking, you can do it on the weekend before or after and have your own Thanksgiving with your favorite food.”
“Some years ago my grandparents managed to book a restaurant for a large family thing, which did not have a single vegetarian main on the menu when only one person in my nuclear family eats meat.”
“I didn’t go there to feast, I went to see my grandparents and celebrate them.”
“This is the hill I would die on. Actually, it’s a relationship ender. Food in my family is a bonding moment and if you are going to be exclusive and bring only yourself a prepped meal then the heck with you.”
“If she isn’t willing to compromise on this, what else won’t she compromise on? In no way shape or form is this the reaction of a mature adult.”
“Think about your future seriously. How will you manage serious issues with her? How about raising a family?”
You can read the rest of what the internet had to say here.
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