His Fiancée Left Him At The Altar, But Now She Wants Him To Take Her Back, And He Has No Idea What To Do
This twenty-eight-year-old man had been dating his girlfriend since he was twenty-one, and she was nineteen.
And since they met at such a young age, they practically grew up together and got to go through everything by each other’s side.
The only real issue in their relationship, though, was that whenever his girlfriend became panicked, she would run away from her problems.
“She used to randomly break up with me and try to dip when we were very young,” he recalled.
But, after the first two or three years of their relationship together, they were able to talk through his girlfriend’s tendency to flee, and it got better. In fact, his girlfriend had not done anything like that in years.
So, about a year ago, he decided to finally propose. And according to him, the decision was hardly a surprise.
Apparently, he and his girlfriend had discussed marriage for years. They both agreed it would happen after his girlfriend finished her MBA and obtained a stable job in his city. And after those things happened, it felt like the perfect time to pop the question.
Of course, though, after his girlfriend said yes, the chaos of wedding planning ensued– and it was very stressful for both of them.
He detailed how they are both from another country where grand and luxe weddings are the norm. So, planning such a large event– as well as flying people out, finding accommodations, etc.– was hardly a small task.
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And about two to three months ago, before the wedding was set to unfold, his girlfriend’s nerves came to a point. Plus, she reportedly tried to talk to him about it.
So, in hindsight, he can see where he went wrong and acknowledge some faults. Apparently, his girlfriend did try to bring up how she was nervous and how the whole idea of a “grand wedding” was seriously stressing her out.
In fact, his girlfriend’s ideal wedding likely would have just been a small destination wedding with a large party afterward.
However, both he and his girlfriend succumbed to their family’s pressure– since both of their loved ones’ requested a big wedding and invited all of their friends.
On top of that, his girlfriend was pretty worried about the commitment of marriage, combining their finances, and other details.
Yes, they had discussed all of these things beforehand, but he realizes now that perhaps his girlfriend just needed some reassurance.
“In hindsight, I realize that every time she brought it up to me before that she was anxious, I chalked it up to the normal cold feet people get and would say it will be fine and brushed it off,” he revealed.
It’s not like he was completely worry-free, either, though. He was also stressed about all of the work he had to get done prior to taking a long leave, as well as the planning and budgeting too.
Don’t get me wrong– he and his girlfriend both made great money, but the exorbitant wedding was going over even their generous budget, and they did not want to take any money from their parents. So, the whole thing was a bit overwhelming.
He and his girlfriend still made it to the night before the wedding, though, and were set to get married the very next day. That evening, though, he remembers his girlfriend seeming very jittery.
Still, he just told her to calm down and get some sleep and was honestly really looking forward to the event.
“Mostly, I was very, very excited to make her my wife, something I have been dreaming of since the day we started dating. She’s the love of my life, and it was still hard to believe she was choosing to marry me. I was the happiest man alive,” he explained.
Come the day of their wedding, though, everything crashed and burned. More specifically, his girlfriend fled, and all she left behind was a note apologizing and claiming she “could not do all of this.”
He had no clue where his soon-to-be wife had gone and claimed that since everything happened so fast, the entire day felt like a movie.
All of his family members rushed into his room right before he was about to walk out onto the altar and asked where she was. So, if you cannot imagine, the entire thing was quite traumatic, and he actually ended up crying in front of all of his family members and friends.
Thankfully, his parents took care of all of the guests while he just went home to process the situation.
To his upset, though, his girlfriend was not there. He then just spent the entire day calling and texting her, trying to figure out what went wrong.
His girlfriend’s phone was turned off that entire time, though, so he never got a response. And it was not until about 10:00 p.m. on what was supposed to be his wedding night that his girlfriend walked through the door of their home.
She was apparently crying and apologizing numerous times. She also claimed to want him back, said that she was ready to go through with the grand wedding, and revealed that she regrets running away in “a momentary lapse of judgment.” Finally, his girlfriend said she really wanted to be with him but just got cold feet and panicked.
So, now, he has absolutely no idea what to do. Yes, he cannot imagine his life without his girlfriend. At the same time, though, his trust has been completely shattered.
“I don’t understand why she couldn’t just be more of an adult and tell me properly before the wedding, although she insists she tried to,” he vented.
“I feel disrespected and just heartbroken and embarrassed that I had to go through all of that.”
In turn, he has been left wondering if he can– and should– forgive his girlfriend and get married. Plus, he is worried that if he does take her back, she might just abandon him again in the future.
“What if she does this again and runs at some other important event as she did on the most important day of my life?”
Do you think his girlfriend’s tendency to run was already a red flag? Do you believe it’s his fault for shrugging off his girlfriend’s concerns over the past few months, or should she have just been more upfront about her worries? Is this relationship salvageable right now, or should they take time apart to work on their issues? Would you ever be able to trust your partner again if they left you at the altar?
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