He Upset His Brother After Telling Their Parents Not To Buy His New Wife An Expensive Traditional Wedding Gift That Costs Between $40,000 To $50,000
Sometimes it can be really difficult to enter a relationship with someone who has a very different cultural background from you and your family.
One man recently upset his brother and future sister-in-law after encouraging his parents not to get them an expensive traditional wedding gift because his sister-in-law doesn’t respect his family’s culture.
He is Asian and has a brother. Coincidentally, he and his brother are both dating women who have reacted very differently to their family’s cultural background.
His girlfriend is very open-minded and loves to try out and experience what his culture offers, from food to music. Even if she doesn’t like something, his girlfriend is respectful and still likes to learn about his heritage.
On the other hand, his brother’s fiancée has always been more disrespectful about their family’s culture.
“She rarely comes to family dinners because she doesn’t like the smell of our food,” he explained.
“She doesn’t join in our celebrations because it’s so different. For example, the Lunar New Year is a huge celebration for us, and she calls it a fake new year we made up just to party.”
When his brother and his fiancée recently got engaged, she expressed that she didn’t want any of their cultural traditions in their wedding ceremony. Her attitude was so poor that his parents almost refused to attend the wedding, and they had to all have a big sit-down conversation to get on better terms.
During their family conversation, he defended his brother and told his parents they should all stay out of the wedding planning process.
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But there’s one thing he won’t help his brother with – his wedding gift. While he was recently out to dinner with his girlfriend and his mom for her birthday, his girlfriend commented on a pretty necklace his mom was wearing.
Then, his mom started talking about how in their culture, it’s traditional for the groom’s family to gift their new daughter-in-law a set of expensive jewelry on the morning of the wedding as a present.
It’s a big deal, as these jewelry sets cost between $40,000 and $50,000. His mom told his girlfriend she had already picked out the set she would give her when they get married.
“My girlfriend was honored [and] then asked if my mom picked out one yet for [my] sister-in-law since their wedding was coming [up],” he recalled.
“My mom said no and that she was going to meet with the jewelers soon to see what they have to offer.”
That’s when he intervened and asked why his parents would even bother following through with that expensive tradition, considering his brother’s fiancée had rejected all their other traditions for their wedding. He said he wouldn’t be chipping in and suggested that his parents give them a toaster instead.
After dinner, he received an angry phone call from his brother and future sister-in-law. Their parents had decided not to gift them expensive jewelry. His brother told him that they’d all be uninvited if he didn’t convince his parents to change their minds about the gift.
Was he wrong to suggest his parents get his future sister-in-law a different gift, or is his brother overreacting?
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