He Told His Roommate’s Wife That Being A Mother Is Significantly Easier Than Being A Blue Collar Worker
In 2020, this man had a married roommate who he also worked with.
They both worked a 12-hour shift without a break and after work, they went home and were understandably exhausted. This grueling work schedule without being given breaks was typical for them.
Their job was incredibly physical, so after their shift, they were dripping in sweat, had bloody knuckles, had grease all over their clothes and skin, and they desperately wanted to take showers and rest.
When he and his roommate reached home, his roommate’s wife, who is a stay-at-home mother, started venting to them about how much of a struggle it is to care for their 3-year-old during the day. She then said that she wanted to have their job and have them stay at home with the child instead. She told them that they had it so much better than she did.
He is the oldest of six children, and because his parents didn’t take care of any of them, he was the one who took care of all of his younger siblings.
While he doesn’t know what it’s like to deal with the financial stresses of having children, he has a lot of experience with the day-to-day exhaustion of childcare.
Since his roommate’s wife is a stay-at-home parent, she doesn’t have to worry as much about financial stress because her husband provides for their child and for her as well.
“I completely get it. Kids suck. Kids are stressful. But if you know how to handle them and get used to their whining, it’s really not that bad, man. Like, I could understand a single mother with two full-time jobs and four kids. Yeah, that would suck. But she was unemployed with one kid to take care of,” he said.
Later, he and his roommate were drinking, but his roommate’s wife wasn’t. They were pretty drunk, so he was wondering if it was because of this that he got more fed up with his roommate’s wife than he maybe normally would have had he been sober.
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But after several hours of hearing his roommate’s wife ranting about how difficult it was being a stay-at-home mother, he told her to get a job if she was so sick of staying home raising a child.
Right away, she was offended and questioned who would watch her son while she was working.
“I then said, ‘Maybe you should hire the neighbor’s daughter to watch the kid while you’re at work. She’s what, 12? 13? Plenty old enough to be able to take care of a toddler without even having to change out of her pajamas,” he explained.
When he said this, his roommate’s wife interpreted it as a jab at her, which was exactly how he meant it. But he doesn’t know if it was fair in hindsight.
Despite whether or not his comments went too far, he couldn’t ignore the fact that she was ranting to them after they’d just gotten home from a 12-hour shift, while their hands were visibly bleeding, their clothes were covered in grease, and they were drenched in sweat.
It just seemed ironic to him that he and his roommate were clearly physically exhausted, and she was complaining about how stressed and tired she was.
During the conversation, she was hoping that he and his roommate would watch her son so that she could relax.
At least twice a week, without him agreeing to it, she and his roommate would leave their son with him so that they could hang out alone together.
Plus, he sometimes had to be the one to enforce discipline on their son because they didn’t do so. Their son often didn’t even listen to his roommate or his roommate’s wife but respected his authority. When the child’s parents needed him to listen to their rules, they would request that he reason with their son.
“She did nothing all day but feed the kid chicken nuggets and play Paw Patrol for him while she scrolled through TikTok (that isn’t an exaggeration–that is literally what she told us she did). And yet, she wanted us to listen to how hard of a day she had had and immediately dismissed any complaints we had about our jobs. And when I broke the news to her that, hey, maybe putting on Netflix and microwaving chicken nuggets isn’t the hardest thing in the world, she freaked out on me,” he shared.
She then started sobbing hysterically and got up and raced to her bedroom.
From there, his roommate said that even though he held the same opinion he did if he voiced these views again, he would be on his wife’s side because he needed to support her.
He didn’t argue with his roommate’s point, and he thought it was a reasonable perspective.
Upon reflection, he’s wondering if he was wrong for telling his roommate’s wife that what she does each day isn’t as difficult as their blue-collar, hard labor work.
Do you think he was out of line for telling his roommate’s wife that her duties as a stay-at-home mother weren’t as difficult as his blue-collar job?
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