She Wants Her Fiancé To Uninvite His Friend Of 20 Years From Their Wedding Because It’s The Only Way Her Best Friend, Who Is His Friend’s Ex, Will Attend The Big Day
Have you ever had two really close friends that don’t get along? When it comes to figuring out what to invite them to, things can get really difficult.
One woman is unsure of what to do after finding out her good friend, who is the ex of her husband’s good friend, won’t attend her wedding if her ex is there.
She’s 24 and is getting married to her 26-year-old fiancé Drew next October. Unfortunately, they’ve found themselves in an uncomfortable situation.
Drew has a longtime friend his age named James. They’ve known each other since they were only five, and although they began drifting apart in their early 20s, they still considered each other friends.
A few years ago, she met James’ wife, Stacey, with whom he has two kids. She and Stacey formed a close relationship and have been good friends since.
When she got to know Stacey, she learned that James wasn’t such a great guy after all. She quickly learned that James was verbally and mentally abusive towards Stacey, to the point where she had to convince her to leave him.
Eventually, James and Stacey finalized a nasty divorce, and James continued to treat her poorly. He also got a new girlfriend not long after the divorce.
Through it all, she’s been supportive of Stacey, and since around four years have passed, Stacey’s entered a new relationship and had another baby.
Oddly, despite everything they know about James, Drew still considers him a friend. Drew has done his best to separate himself from the situation and believes that what happened between James and Stacey is none of their business.
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Now that their wedding is coming up, she wants Stacey as her maid of honor, and Drew wants James to be one of his groomsmen.
Unsure if James could commit to being a groomsman, Stacey said she was uncomfortable with the idea of seeing him at the wedding but would be in it to be a good friend. But when James accepted the groomsman’s invitation two weeks later, Stacey told her she felt too uncomfortable to be in the wedding.
“She explained that she can’t be around her abuser like that and hates even picking up and dropping off their kids,” she said.
“She tells me she’s sorry and she will not change her mind. She will only come if he’s uninvited. I’m crushed.”
She’s feeling really disappointed that Stacey didn’t tell her this before Drew invited James to be in the wedding. Stacey said she wanted to go through with being her maid of honor and wanted to be the bigger person, but she can’t handle seeing James there, especially in the wedding party with her.
“I sort of want Drew to uninvite James, but I know how mean that is and may end their friendship,” she explained.
“If we pick to have James there over her, I don’t know if she and I will be friends anymore. I totally see her side in not wanting to be around him, but I also [understand] my fiancé wanting his longtime friend, who has always been a good friend to him, to be at our wedding.”
Should she let Stacey step down from being maid of honor, or should she and Drew have ditched James a long time ago?
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