She Humiliated Her Mother-In-Law And Called Her Out For Not Being A Nice Person During A Family Dinner, And She Refuses To Apologize
Several weeks ago, this woman was at a family dinner when her mother-in-law was discussing how her friend, Lily, had been distancing herself from her and the rest of their friend group after beginning therapy.
While talking about this, her mother-in-law expressed how baffled and sad Lily’s actions made her feel, adding that she was the one whom Lily was distancing herself from the most, and she couldn’t comprehend why this was.
Her mother-in-law continued, naming several traits about herself to illustrate why it didn’t make sense to her that Lily wouldn’t communicate with her that much anymore. However, she didn’t think the traits her mother-in-law listed about herself were accurate descriptors.
“My mother-in-law would say things like, ‘I’m a great listener,’ then stare at us all until we agreed. She called herself a nice person, and I couldn’t hold in my laughter. I wasn’t the only one who laughed, by the way. My sister-in-law laughed, too,” she said.
Apparently, her mother-in-law hadn’t predicted anyone would react this way, so she asked her why she was laughing at this.
In response, she decided to be honest, pointing out that it wasn’t true that she was a nice person. Her mother-in-law questioned what she’d done to her that would make her feel like she wasn’t nice.
Before speaking, she took a few sips of juice, and then she recalled several things that her mother-in-law did and said about her that were mean.
As she listed all of these incidents, her mother-in-law protested and argued about every single one, claiming she hadn’t done or said any of the things she was claiming or pointing out that she’d said sorry if there was truth to some of the stories. Her mother-in-law also told her she had to move on from her past behavior.
“So, I decided to bring up the elephant in the room: Her using her influence over my husband’s job and threatening to sell our house to force us into spending the holidays doing what she wants,” she explained.
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“We left after she started weeping and throwing herself onto the floor. She told me I owed her a public apology because I embarrassed her in front of the family. I refused to apologize.”
After her refusal to say sorry, some of her in-laws sent her messages to tell her that they agreed with her decision not to apologize, while others said that she was a jerk for what she said, asking her to apologize to her mother-in-law.
“My mother-in-law has us spend the holidays creating curated images and videos for her to show off to the awful friends she competes with. During the trip, professional photographers and videographers are present from sunrise to sunset,” she shared.
During this annual holiday trip, they aren’t even able to eat meals until the photographers are satisfied with the photos they’ve captured.
They aren’t able to spend the holidays the way they want to, even for several hours, because there is a schedule created by an event planner that they have to adhere to.
While on these trips, it feels like they’re part of a reality show with how often they’re being filmed.
Understandably, these trips are tiring under normal circumstances, but she’s currently pregnant with twins, so she doesn’t feel up for the trip this time around because she has a limited amount of energy.
When she discussed her thoughts about this with her husband, he told her that he shared his views and that he hadn’t enjoyed these trips past the age of 12.
Later, her husband broke the news to his mother that they wouldn’t be going on the holiday trip, but they were planning to attend the multiple New Year’s events his mother had planned, as well as the party.
Her mother-in-law was devasted to hear this and sobbed, claiming that she had taken her son away from him, accusing her of using the twins as a way of manipulating him into taking her side.
Luckily, her husband defended her, and his mother angrily told him they didn’t have to attend the holiday trip.
The reason her mother-in-law is able to hold their house over their heads is because her name is on the deed. The house was part of a wedding gift for them, and she and her husband have partial ownership of the house.
Not long ago, her mother-in-law got their real estate agent to tell them that there were three buyers interested in the house, but their house isn’t currently for sale.
Her husband works for his father’s company, like all of the other men in his family, so this was why her mother-in-law was able to use this as something else to hold over him.
Later, her mother-in-law got her father-in-law to hint that if they didn’t attend the holiday trip, he would fire him.
Now, they will be attending the trip to avoid any more drama.
What advice would you give her?
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