She Had To Uninvite Her Best Friend From Her Wedding, Since She Used To Date Her Fiancé And Kept Making Uncomfortable Jokes
It’s uncomfortable when a friend dates someone you briefly dated, but at the end of the day, expressing how you feel is important instead of being passive-aggressive.
One woman recently had to uninvite her friend, who briefly dated her fiancé before she met him, from her wedding because she wouldn’t stop making uncomfortable jokes about their relationship.
She’s 26 and has known her 27-year-old friend, Izzy since they were little. When they were kids, she and Izzy were super close. They remained close in college but began drifting apart on and off after graduating.
Right after graduation, when Izzy was 23, she began dating a guy named Jake. They only went on a few dates, and Izzy eventually broke things off because she wasn’t interested in a serious relationship with him. She had never heard about Izzy’s relationship with Jake because Izzy was dating many guys at the time.
About a year later, she and Izzy became close again because they decided to move in together. While rooming with Izzy, she decided to go on a few dates, and lo and behold, she met Jake, unaware he had dated Izzy in the past.
“When I showed her his picture, she recognized him and told me about her dates with him,” she recalled.
“Friendships were more important to me than any guy back then, so I asked her if it was okay to date him because I liked him a lot. She said she had no problem and joked about it never turning into a relationship.”
However, she and Jake became very serious very quickly. She soon learned that Jake was her soulmate and eventually decided to move in with him, making her and Izzy drift apart again.
Before she and Jake eventually got engaged, Izzy would continue to joke about their relationship whenever she saw her, dismissing how serious they were about each other. Izzy would joke about how she didn’t expect her and Jake to be so close, and she used to think her jokes were funny.
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But then, when she and Jake got engaged, Izzy began acting very weird, and her jokes weren’t funny anymore.
When she announced her and Jake’s engagement on Instagram, Izzy commented, “You better mention me in your vows because he was into me first, haha.”
Jake became uncomfortable with Izzy’s comments, and she used to defend her, telling him Izzy just had a silly personality and it was normal for her to joke around like that. Still, she asked Izzy to ease up on jokes about her relationship. Unfortunately, she didn’t comply.
“After Christmas, we hosted a dinner party, and Izzy kept telling all the friends and family [who] gathered that Jake dated her first, [and] she let me have him; stuff like that,” she recalled.
“Even after telling her it was not okay, she [still] joked around. Later, I told her that she was crossing my boundaries and that it was not okay, to which she said I was overreacting. In the end, I told her not to attend my wedding at all.”
Since confronting Izzy and uninviting her to her wedding, she’s been wondering if she made the right decision.
She can feel their mutual friends starting to “pick sides” and doesn’t necessarily want to ruin a childhood friendship. However, Izzy hasn’t been supportive or positive about her relationship with Jake, so it wouldn’t make sense for her to be at the wedding.
Should she re-invite Izzy, or did she make the right choice?
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