He Missed The Birth Of His Daughter Ten Years Ago And Has Been Absent From Her Life Ever Since, But Now He Wants To Introduce His New Girlfriend To His Daughter, And His Daughter’s Mom Is Totally Against It
When this twenty-nine-year-old man was nineteen, he got married and even had a daughter. But, as soon as his baby girl was born, he admitted to disappearing from her life.
In fact, he never even saw his daughter while she was in the hospital as a baby and was rarely present in his daughter’s life over the last ten years.
So, if you could not have guessed, he got divorced from his ex-wife– who got full custody of his daughter. Then, he paid child support for just three years before ceasing any financial contributions.
“I married young, was really stupid, and thought I would end up being a good dad despite no skills,” he explained.
“But, I got scared that I would turn out like my dad and chickened out. It’s not really an excuse but an explanation, I guess.”
More recently, though, he has begun speaking with his ex-wife again in hopes of reconnecting with his daughter. But, his ex-wife has her fair share of understandable reservations. More specifically, she believes he should stay out of his daughter’s life for the most part.
Still, according to him, he believes that making amends is always possible and really wants to make things right. Despite that, he claims to respect his ex-wife’s decision– whatever that may be.
He also revealed that during the few times he has seen his daughter in the past, his ex-wife introduced him as a friend– another thing that he wants to change soon.
“My ex-wife says she will tell her [his daughter] when she is ready,” he noted.
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Interestingly, though, the part of this situation that has been upsetting him the most has to do with his current girlfriend.
Apparently, he has been dating a new woman, who is twenty-eight, for about ten months now. And even though they have only been together for a short time, he claims that they both see a future life together.
So, when he was speaking with his ex-wife recently, he decided to propose the idea of introducing his girlfriend to his daughter. But his ex-wife was far from thrilled about that.
Instead, she reportedly said that introduction would not be happening and claimed it was a terrible idea. But he honestly does not understand why and believes it is only fair that his daughter gets to know about his life, too.
“If I want to reintroduce her [his daughter] into my life, isn’t it fair that she gets to see my life, too?” he asked.
“Obviously, I care for this girl, and I will care for my daughter’s life too. But a relationship has to be two-sided, and I don’t think it’s out of the question to show her my life, too.”
Still, though, after hearing how opposed his ex-wife was to the idea, he cannot help but wonder if wanting his daughter to meet his girlfriend makes him a total jerk.
Why do you think his ex-wife thinks that the introduction would be a terrible idea? Does it make sense why his ex-wife might not want him, or his girlfriend, to take on such a large role in his daughter’s life after he was absent for so long? If you were in his ex-wife’s shoes, how would you feel about this entire situation?
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