Her Husband Has Been Cheating On Her, So She Filed For Divorce, But He Still Expects Her To Cook Thanksgiving Dinner And Host His Whole Family
A woman in her 40s has been married to her husband for 22 long years. This September, her husband left home for a work trip, and then she received a shocking email from him.
His email stated that he wanted to get divorced from her, and it was a complete sucker punch. She had no clue that he felt that way, and she picked up the phone to try to get a hold of him.
After calling several times, her husband finally picked up the phone and admitted to her that, yes, he really wanted to go through with a divorce.
He then told her he was not happy and had felt that way for some time before informing her that he thought the email was the best way to break things off so he would not have to cope with her being “hysterical and unreasonable.”
“After a lot of begging for clarification, he said the major reason for divorce is that he can’t handle my illness,” she explained.
“I was diagnosed with an autoimmune disorder a couple of years ago that causes some painful physical symptoms. I have learned to manage it with a lot of diet control and exercises, but I have occasional flare-ups of pain.”
“More importantly, it hasn’t affected his lifestyle at all because he has done nothing to take care of me, and I still manage almost all of the household while working full time.”
In the month following his shocking email, her husband left their house and stated that he was staying with one of his friends, though he would not tell her who.
She ended up digging through his cellphone records and credit card statements to piece together what was really going on, and everything led her to one conclusion: her husband was cheating on her and had been for a while.
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Without having all of the facts straight, she confronted her husband, who did reveal that she was right; there was someone else in his life.
“I searched through years of card charges and found that he had been visiting this location for over a year,” she said.
“I remembered one particular week where I begged him not to travel and take time off to help me because I was in a lot of pain and we were dealing with a lot of issues (home heating broke down, the son had problems at school, dog needed lot of vet visits) and he was adamant that he couldn’t risk his job and had to go.”
He lied to her, though, because instead of being at work, he was spending time with another woman.
All the heartache she felt instantly melted into fury, and she knew she had to be done with him. She not longer called him and instead picked up the phone to speak to some lawyers.
When her husband finally returned to the house that they shared, she had already packed his crap up and put it in the guest room.
She also had planned out how to divide up their assets, and so, when he walked through the door, she passed him the divorce paperwork.
Since then, they have essentially existed as roommates without speaking to her, and surprisingly, he asked her this morning what she was planning on making for Thanksgiving.
“I told him there’s no way I am hosting a thanksgiving dinner for his family at this point,” she continued.
“He said that since I’ve done that every year since we were married, my inlaws expect us to host, and I can’t cancel at the last minute.”
“All this stress has already exacerbated my pain, I really can’t manage a party at my house. I know it is unfair to my in-laws to cancel dinner a few days before the event, but I argued he should be responsible for his family and not expect me to manage them after he tells me he’s leaving me. He claims he hasn’t told his family anything and doesn’t want to ruin Thanksgiving and Christmas for them by making an announcement now. He’s calling me petty for refusing to work at hosting them.”
She’s left wondering if she is a jerk for not wanting to host his family and cook for Thanksgiving. What do you think?
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