Her Dad’s Wife Decided To Tag Along On A Recent Visit But Kept Trying To Change All Of Their Plans, So She Told His Wife That “Plus Ones Don’t Get Accommodations”
This 29-year-old woman and her husband just welcomed their first daughter into the world about 7 months ago.
And since she no longer lives in the same country as her parents– who are divorced– they decided to visit separately in order to meet her baby.
Her dad wound up traveling there once her daughter turned one-month-old. But unfortunately, he was unable to make it back for a second visit over the last six months.
That’s why her dad recently planned another trip for later this month. He also asked if his wife, Anna, could come along, and she agreed that would be fine.
Throughout the entire past week, though, she claimed that Anna kept asking for a bunch of changes to their plans.
Apparently, Anna wanted to visit different places, eat at different restaurants, and even tried to change the dates of the visit to make the trip more convenient for her.
And she honestly started to get a little fed up. After all, she had told her dad on numerous occasions that she specifically made plans with him, herself, and her daughter in mind.
“So I didn’t really appreciate Anna thinking she could mix and match what she wanted to do,” she said.
She did express these concerns to her dad, too, and he claimed to understand. Yet, he still proceeded to text her about all of Anna’s requests– which she wound up saying no to.
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That’s why, yesterday, Anna decided to text her directly and ask if they could take a day trip to a town located about an hour and 50 minutes away. Apparently, Anna had never been to the town but always wanted to visit.
Quite frankly, though, she does not want to take a 4-hour round trip drive to a town that she has visited countless times while carrying an infant in tow.
So, she told Anna that and also claimed that if she wanted to go so badly, then Anna could organize a separate visit on her own time.
But Anna didn’t like that response and rebutted that this visit was going to be her own time.
“To which I said she is welcome to hire a car and drive there at any time she wants, but I will not be going,” she recalled.
Still, Anna wouldn’t budge and accused her of being unfair for not accepting any of Anna’s requests.
And at that point, she was pretty irritated. So, she decided to tell Anna that “plus ones don’t get to make the schedule.”
She also pointed out that if Anna did not like the trip itinerary, then she did not need to go with her dad for the visit.
Now, her dad wound up hearing about what she said and completely blew up on her for speaking to Anna like that.
Her dad claimed that she should have just asked him to take care of it. But now, because she didn’t, her dad believes she upset Anna by insinuating that his wife wasn’t welcome on the trip.
Yet, in spite of her dad’s perspective, she really doesn’t think she insinuated his wife wasn’t welcome. Plus, she admitted to her dad that she wouldn’t be “fussed” if Anna went along on the trip or not.
“But Anna is tagging along on his trip to see his granddaughter, and she needs to be respectful of that,” she added.
Unfortunately, her dad just did not agree with her and claimed Anna thought the visit was more of a “communal holiday.”
So, he accused her of being way too harsh and actually called her a jerk for putting him in the middle of their argument.
And now, due to her dad’s comments, she’s been left wondering whether calling out her dad’s wife and claiming that plus ones are not entitled to accommodations really made her a jerk or not.
Wasn’t the point of this trip for her dad to spend quality time with her daughter? Can you understand why Anna’s requests are stressful and irritating while she is still recovering from childbirth with an infant at home? Do you think she did the right thing by calling out Anna? Or could she have handled this situation in a better way?
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