She’s Considering Ending Things With Her Boyfriend Over His Lack of Parenting, Since He Spoils His Youngest Kid To No End
This 33-year-old woman has a boyfriend who is 41, and overall, their relationship is decent. She says they have good days and bad days just like anyone else, but their relationship has been pretty excellent for more than a year now.
They are even at the point where they are discussing more serious aspects, such as moving in together sometime soon.
The only thing complicating this is the fact that she comes with two kids of her own from a previous relationship, and so does he.
She currently has full custody of her kids, and as for her boyfriend, he has his kids every other weekend and for half of the holidays.
For the most part, her boyfriend gets along with her kids, and she gets along with his too. But, her boyfriend’s complete lack of parenting is creating major waves.
“He spoils his youngest (7F) and does not tell her off; she gets away with everything, and even when he does tell her off, she starts crying, and he hugs her,” she explained.
“It’s made my children resent her, and they’ve started not being nice to her because they are fed up with it. I still tell them off, but then I also don’t think that’s fair and feel bad for my children.”
“It’s also making me feel less…attracted to him, I think, ’cause I see it as weak or lazy? They aren’t with us most of the time, and I sometimes make sure me and my 2 are busy on his kid weekends to avoid seeing them, but we have spent quite a bit of time with them over the summer, and it’s really got to me.”
She has attempted to discuss all of this with her boyfriend, and he has sort of tried to change things, but nothing ever sticks.
alena0509 – stock.adobe.com- illustrative purposes only, not the actual child
It makes her feel terrible to put him down for how incapable he is as a dad, and she knows she’s not about to win some award for the world’s best mom herself.
The difference is that when her kids misbehave, she corrects their behavior and teaches them right from wrong, whereas her boyfriend doesn’t even try.
One recent example of this was when they all went out to eat at a restaurant, and she told her kids and his kids that if anyone got up to run around once more, they won’t be having any dessert.
How her boyfriend’s 7-year-old daughter reacted to this made her blood boil.
“A few minutes later, she asked her dad for a cuddle, and he said yes, so she got up and gave me the “I won” smile and laughed in my face,” she said. “And he did nothing.”
She can’t even begin to see how she can fix things, but she is thinking of dumping her boyfriend over this.
What do you think she should do?
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