His Wife Has Been Distant And Cold, So Now He’s Falling For A Woman He Works With
This 29-year-old man has a wife the same age as him, and they have been together for a decade.
Three years ago, they decided to tie the knot, and lately, their marriage is not going well at all. Throughout the last year, his wife has been really distant and cold towards him, and she doesn’t want to do anything with him at all.
She never kisses him, hugs him, or cuddles him. She might hold his hand in public on occasion, but that’s it.
As soon as he comes home from work every day, his wife heads upstairs to lie down, or after they have dinner, she will instantly get in bed.
“I do everything for her,” he explained. “I clean the house, I do all the chores, I do the laundry, I take out the trash, I clean and service her car for her, I do everything for her, and I get nothing in return.”
“I don’t feel like she respects me, she’s not loving towards me, she never tells me she’s proud of me for working hard for us. I make good money and even have a side hustle for extra cash.”
“She can have anything she wants in this life. She has a job by choice, doing what she enjoys. I put her through college.”
His wife also is not interested in trying to have any meaningful discussions, and she has zero interest in the things that he likes.
When he has tried to address this with his wife, she shuts him out. He then thought he could suggest that they try therapy, but his wife wasn’t down to give that a go.
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“I feel like we’re just friends with absolutely no benefits. I feel so lonely,” he said. “Recently, I’ve been filling this void by talking to this woman at work. I’ve known her for 2 years. We have so much in common it’s unreal. We’re interested in the same music, movies, YouTube channels, and so much more.”
His coworker gives him compliments, she listens when he speaks, and she remembers little details about him.
She’s intelligent, she’s quite successful, and she has goals for what she wants to achieve in life.
This is a woman that he can have very deep conversations with, and he talks to her for hours on end.
He has never encountered a woman like this before, and every time she texts him, he can’t help but smile.
“I’m excited to tell her good news,” he continued. “She is completely different from my wife, and she knows I’m married. We are friends.”
“I care about my wife, but if we split up tomorrow, it wouldn’t faze me like it would have 5 years ago. I am unhappy where I am right now. I don’t want to drag out this cold, detached marriage, and I definitely don’t want to lead this other woman on.”
“I’m afraid that if I stay, I will miss out on so much and continue to be unhappy. I’m afraid that if I leave, this other woman wouldn’t be interested in a deeper, more intimate relationship with me. However, I believe she would be based on her actions alone.”
And he is falling for his coworker. To complicate things further, he and his wife are expecting a baby.
His wife always wanted to have children before turning 30, and she is getting her way. He is honestly thrilled, and he has always desired to be a dad, but he wants to be raising children with a partner who is loving and supportive, and his wife is not.
So, here he is, deciding which path he should take. He could stay married to his wife, who is nothing but distant and cold towards him, and she is currently pregnant.
Or, he could leave her and see where things go with his coworker, and he thinks this woman could make him feel fulfilled and happy.
He’s really grappling with his emotions, and he’s not sure which is the best thing to do in his situation.
“I understand that most people will label me as the bad guy or a coward, but I’m really struggling with my emotions right now,” he added.
“What should I do? Should I stay with my wife and continue to be unhappy, or should I leave?”
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