She’s Made It Clear That She Doesn’t Want Kids, But Her Fiancé Still Isn’t On The Same Page, So She Wants To Give Him An Ultimatum That Either He Respects Her Decision Or Their Relationship Is Over
This 23-year-old woman is currently engaged to her fiancé, who is 27. However, they strongly disagree about one major thing in life: whether or not to have children.
Back when they first started dating, she made it crystal clear to her then-boyfriend that she actually never wanted to have kids.
“At the time, he got extremely upset but eventually got over it,” she recalled.
Since then, she’s talked to her fiancé on multiple occasions about children. She’s even told him that if it’s a goal in his life to have kids, then they simply cannot be together.
Instead, she believes that her fiancé would have to find another woman who shares that same goal.
Nonetheless, her fiancé decided to stay with her– even though she never wanted to become a mother.
“He claimed he is willing to give up on that [dream] in order to be with me,” she revealed.
However, in one of their conversations, he hinted that at some point in the future, maybe 10 years from now, he might ask her again if she wants to have children. Then, if she still said no, he claimed it would be okay, and he would just live with it.
Due to that conversation, she thought her stance on the situation was clear and that everything was settled in their relationship. But, more recently, she’s begun to realize that her fiancé just isn’t content with not having children.
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According to her, whenever they are out and see a child nowadays, her fiancé will make remarks about how adorable they are. He also talks about how “badly” he wants to have a baby with her.
Each time her fiancé does this, she also tries to reiterate that she doesn’t want children. However, she feels like he doesn’t even hear her!
“He brushes it off by saying I’m too young and when I’m older, I’ll change my mind. He leaves no room for discussion at all!” she said.
This entire situation has left her feeling really frustrated, too. That’s why she actually wants to give her fiancé an ultimatum that either he respects her decision not to have kids and doesn’t bring it up again, or their relationship is over.
“But I’m not sure if I’m overreacting about this and if I should just ignore his comments instead,” she vented.
So now, she’s wondering if the ultimatum would be justified or if telling her fiancé that would just make her a jerk.
Does it sound like an ultimatum would work in this situation? Or is it clear that she and her fiancé want different things in life? Do you think going through with their marriage would be a good idea if they aren’t on the same page? What should she do?
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