After He Discovered His Wife Was Cheating With A Coworker, He Spent Four Months Collecting Evidence And Filed For Divorce Behind Her Back
This 34-year-old man and his wife, who is 35, have been together for 12 years and married for eight years.
But, beginning in March, he realized that she started acting quite cold toward him. Then, he noticed some other “suspicious things” occurring in their relationship, too.
So, he eventually couldn’t help himself and decided to do some detective work. In other words, he went snooping.
This allowed him to find out that his wife had been cheating on him – having an affair with one of her coworkers.
“It was first emotional and then became physical,” he explained.
However, even after finding out about her infidelity, he did not confront her. Rather, he just kept acting as though everything was perfectly fine in their relationship.
He and his wife kept going on date nights, enjoying activities, and sleeping together. But, throughout this same time period, he started collecting evidence of her affair.
“And working with my attorney to complete the filing behind the scenes and financial things,” he added.
This went on for around four months, and in the end, he filed for divorce without his wife even knowing about it.
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She was finally served with divorce papers just last week. At that point, he closed their shared credit cards, withdrew half of their money from their joint savings account, and was “completely prepared” for their split. His wife, on the other hand, was shell-shocked.
She apparently broke down crying and tried to talk to him about the divorce. Yet, he just remained composed and acted completely indifferent.
“In reality, I’ve been crying secretly some nights since I discovered her affair, and it hurts. I’ll see it to the end,” he vented.
Ever since he told his friends about what he did, though, some of them have had mixed reactions toward him filing for divorce behind his wife’s back. They believe that he should have at least let her know he wanted to separate so she could emotionally prepare herself.
Now, this has left him wondering if proceeding with a divorce without even talking to his wife about her infidelity first was really the wrong thing to do.
Do you think he should have told his wife about the divorce filing? Or did she lose her right to know when she cheated on him?
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