He Spent Months Collecting Evidence Of His Wife’s Affair And Acting Completely Normal, But When He Finally Confronted Her About The Cheating, She Felt His Indifference Was Cruel
This 30-year-old man and his wife, who is 34, have been together for eight years and married for five years. He genuinely loved her, too, and believed they could open up to each other about anything.
“Like many couples, we had our ups and downs, but I never thought it could lead to infidelity,” he recalled.
Yet, around four months ago, he realized his wife was acting strangely. She was suddenly on her phone constantly and avoiding talking to him.
However, his suspicions were not confirmed until he actually found a text on her cell, proving that she’d been seeing another guy.
“It was like a punch in the stomach. I felt anger, sadness, and an overwhelming sense of betrayal,” he explained.
He did not immediately confront his wife, though. Rather, he decided to play the long game and wait it out.
He knew that in order to protect himself in the event they got divorced, he would need to have undeniable evidence. That’s why, for the following two months, he collected photos and messages to use in the event of a legal battle.
While he did all of that, he also pretended that things were completely normal in their relationship.
“I watched her act like everything was fine, and with each passing day, my feelings for her faded,” he admitted.
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“The love I once felt was replaced by indifference. If anyone says that love for someone doesn’t go away, it’s not entirely true.”
Once he had enough proof against his wife, he finally talked to her about the cheating and showed her all of the evidence.
Of course, she attempted to deny any wrongdoing in the beginning, but then she eventually confessed to having an affair. In the same breath, his wife claimed it was a total mistake and swore that she was still in love with them. She even said that she wanted to work on their relationship.
He, on the other hand, was left feeling basically numb.
“I didn’t scream, I didn’t cry, and I didn’t even get angry. I simply told her that it was okay, that we could get a divorce, and that we could each move on with our lives,” he revealed.
His wife was seriously confused by this, and she viewed his “indifference” as cruel and cold. She suggested that he would have fought to save their marriage if he truly loved her – something that he finds pretty ironic.
“But the truth was that I did love her very much. Only after two months of living with the betrayal in silence, I just didn’t care,” he vented.
Now, he can’t help but wonder if acting apathetic toward his wife in the wake of this whole situation was justified or made him a jerk.
Can you understand why he seemed detached after already spending months hurting over the cheating? What advice would you give him?
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