His Wife's Dying Wish Was For Him Not To Date, And When His Daughter Found Out He Broke His Promise, She Screamed At Him

Grief leaves behind more than just loss; it leaves behind promises, memories, and the impossible weight of trying to honor both. For one widower, a remark from his wife before she passed ended up being something that his daughters really took to heart.

Now, here he is trapped in a promise he never intended to make, with children who feel betrayed that he's ready to move forward with his life instead of staying stuck in the past.

This man's wife sadly passed away six years ago following a brief illness. One day before his wife died, it appeared she might be able to bounce back, and she actually said to him that if she passed, he wasn't allowed to date other girls.

He laughed at that and made a promise to honor her wishes, thinking it was just a joke. Their two daughter (who were 12 and 14 back then) were present when his wife said that, and they took her words as something serious. Unfortunately, that evening, his wife got worse and passed away by noon the following day.

So, he's spent the years since he lost his wife raising their children, and their youngest went away to college a month ago. Over the years, he's enrolled in a couple of support groups for individuals who have lost their spouses, and at the beginning of the year, he ended up making a connection with a woman whose husband died approximately when his wife did.

He was not seeking a relationship or romance, but he's since gone on a few dates with this woman. He's been trying not to let anyone know that he's moving on, and he's been keeping their dates on the down low.

Recently, he took her out to dinner at a restaurant, and their server just so happened to be his oldest daughter's high school friend.

"She must have called or texted my daughter because last night my daughter called to scream at me and basically told me I was cheating on her mother, and I had no right to dishonor her request of me," he explained.

"I am pretty furious she called me like that, and I had to hang up and told her I’d call her in the morning when I’ve had some time to reflect. Now all I can think of is how horrible I am for this."

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"I’m 45 years old and I need companionship, but I don’t want my daughters to think I’m spitting on their mother’s grave. My wife’s sister also texted me to tell me that my wife’s request was unreasonable and unfair, and that her family is not going to judge me if I move on, and she would talk to my daughter about it. I don’t want to ruin my relationship with my kids over this, but I am so...torn."

His daughters are clinging to something they heard as kids, but that doesn’t mean he has to stay frozen in place forever. I think he should be gentle but firm with his daughters: make it clear their mom will never be replaced, but also that he deserves to still have a life. They may be angry now, but in time, they'll see how wrong it is for them to try to prevent him from finding happiness again.

Do you think he's wrong for not honoring his wife's dying wish?

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