He Sat His Friend Down And Said That He Needs To Lower His Physical Standards For Women If He Wants To Stop Being Single, And Now His Friend Isn’t Speaking To Him
A 22-year-old guy has a friend the same age as him who has been single forever. His friend has zero experience in the romance department, and he has never once had a girlfriend.
He does like his friend, and he sees a lot of good in him. His friend makes $180,000 a year working as a surgical device sales rep, and his friend graduated magna cum laude too.
His friend has a great personality and is super easy to hold a conversation with. Unfortunately, though, his friend has impossibly high physical standards when it comes to women, and he’s convinced that’s why he’s going to stay single forever.
“However, physically, and I know I’m being brutal here, he is not a catch,” he explained. “He already has a significantly receded hairline, his face is quite frankly below average, he’s of below average height, and he’s not in amazing shape.”
“I believe he has a distorted view because his parents constantly told him he was very handsome and could get any girl. As a result, he is exclusively interested in women who are not just successful but also are exceptionally gorgeous.”
“A woman, who said she just graduated from an ivy league and was a tech sales rep, was flirting with him at the bar. Though she was nice and clearly quite intelligent, and again I know I’m being brutal here, she was not very attractive. When she asked for his number, he politely declined.”
He questioned his friend about why he turned this seemingly nice girl down, and his friend said that yes, she did seem sweet, but she was not even close to being in his league physically.
He decided not to set his friend straight and just dropped the topic from there.
One week after his friend turned this girl down, he revealed to him that he went to a cooking class and got rejected by a woman he asked out.
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His friend was really upset, and so he asked if he could see a photo of this woman from the cooking class.
His friend pulled her up on social media, and it was blatantly obvious to him why this girl turned his friend down.
“Sure enough, she was insanely attractive and in marketing at a big company,” he said. “I just tried to sympathize. Later, I thought long and hard about it. On the one hand, I didn’t want to be mean. But on the other, this has been occurring since freshman year of high school.”
“He is now the last person in the friend group to be single and completely missed out on dating in high school and college.”
“Say what you will, but I think that romance is important for the vast majority of people, and I also think physical attraction is a foundational aspect of relationships unless you’re both ace. He could easily be in a relationship if he got over his obsession with beauty.”
“So after rehearsing what I wanted to say, I decided to sit him down, and I told him, “I’m going to be honest with you, man, I think you should lower your physical standards. You would have way more options.” He protested and said that his standards were reasonable because he’s a good-looking guy.”
He gently informed his friend that his willingness to only go for women who were drop-dead gorgeous clearly hasn’t been fruitful for him so far.
He also pointed out to his friend that he really should look at women who are sweet but aren’t as hot, you know, like that girl at the bar he had turned down.
He then mentioned it might be a good idea for his friend to go to therapy. Well, his friend got livid with him and has not really said anything to him in 8 days.
He’s left wondering if it was mean of him to try to be honest with his friend about why he’s single.
Do you think he should have said nothing and kept letting his friend struggle along?
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