She And Her Husband Sleep In Different Bedrooms, And Now Her Friend Is Accusing Her Of Ruining Her Marriage Because Her Own Husband Wants To Try Out This Arrangement
A 34-year-old woman is currently married to her husband, who is 35, and they first met back in college.
They have been with one another for 14 years, and early on in their relationship, they moved right in with one another.
They had only been dating for a handful of months before they made this move in their relationship, and as soon as their honeymoon period was over and done with, it hit them like a ton of bricks: they are not on the same page when it comes to, well, sleeping arrangements.
“We were happy as a couple, but our sleeping habits and preferences really didn’t match,” she explained.
“He likes scratchy blankets when I like soft fabrics, he snores loudly, and it wakes me up; he moves a lot; he makes my bed too hot; my duvet was too thick for him and so on and so forth. We tried compromises such as separate duvets, etc.”
“And they did work a bit but were not ideal. So eventually, the next house we rented had two bedrooms, and it worked like a charm. We could pick whatever bedding we wanted, we weren’t disturbed in our sleep, and overall had better sleep quality.”
“Sure, if one of us felt the need for cuddles, we still would occasionally sleep in the same bed, but the majority of nights, we slept separately, and we were better than ever. When we bought our house, we made sure each of us could have our own bedroom, and we did what we wanted with them. It really works wonderfully for us and makes us happier as a couple.”
This past Friday, she went out to have a celebratory Christmas dinner with some of her coworkers.
Dinner wasn’t all that upscale, and when they were done, they headed out to a pub to grab a couple of drinks.
Monkey Business – stock.adobe.com – illustrative purposes only, not the actual person
A couple of her coworkers asked their spouses to come to meet them at the pub, and they did.
So, there she was, drinking with her coworkers and their spouses. One of her coworkers, whom she also considers a good friend of hers, is named Suzie, and Suzie was there with her husband.
At some point that evening, the conversation turned to spouses who snore. Everyone was a bit drunk at this point, and then one of the people at her table asked her directly if her husband is a snorer.
She replied that he was, and that was one of the reasons why they have different bedrooms. It never occurred to her to keep this intimate detail of her personal life to herself, and then Suzie’s husband got really curious about her sleeping arrangement.
He wound up asking her several questions, and she honestly replied to every single one of them.
Everyone went their separate ways when the evening came to an end, and she didn’t think anything of that conversation until earlier today when Suzie called her.
When she picked up Suzie’s call, Suzie was clearly furious on the other end of the phone. Suzie then called her the worst for even saying that she didn’t sleep in the same bedroom as her husband.
Suzie went on a tirade, saying there is no way she could be happy not sleeping in the same bedroom as her husband and she should quit faking it.
Suzie was so upset that she was basically in tears and screaming at the exact same time. She was so shocked and confused because Suzie had never acted like that before.
“Well, it turns out Suzie snores a lot, and her husband loves the idea of having separate bedrooms and wanted to try it,” she said.
“Suzie sees it as the ultimate end to their relationship, as disrespectful, as not something married couples should do.”
“So now, she blames me for introducing her husband to the idea and validating it with my lies (I haven’t lied). I didn’t think I did anything wrong at the time, but I do feel bad for her…”
Do you think she is to blame, and should she have kept it a secret that she and her husband are happy not to sleep in the same bedroom?
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