She’s Pretty Tired Of Having To Say Sorry To Her Daughter For Having A Very Different Childhood Than Her Stepsiblings
I’ve always admired people who unexpectedly had kids at a young age but were able to work hard as they became adults so they could support their children in the future.
One mother had her daughter when she was 17 and worked hard to give her daughter a better life. But when she remarried and had more children, her daughter became jealous of her half-siblings’ childhood.
After she had her daughter, CJ, during her teenage years, she became a single mom when CJ’s father decided not to stick around.
“We really struggled for a bit,” she remembered.
“Even when I graduated college, I had a bunch of student loan debt as well as juggling rent, food, and other expenses. CJ never lacked necessities, but I admit she didn’t get a lot of material possessions.”
As a young mom, she did her best to make holidays and birthdays memorable for CJ. Besides that, she rarely received any gifts and only went on two vacations throughout her childhood.
As a result, they lived through a lot of CJ’s childhood teetering on the poverty line.
Finally, years later, when CJ was 17, she was debt free. She got a promotion at her job and could provide CJ with more exciting experiences. For instance, when she got her work bonus, she took CJ to DisneyWorld, a place she never thought she’d be able to visit as a little kid.
“It was nice that after years of struggling, I could spoil her a little,” she said.
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When CJ went off to college, she met her new husband, Matthew. After they married, they had two kids, their six-year-old daughter Melissa and five-year-old son Jack.
She admits that Jack and Melissa have had a much more bountiful and eventful childhood, as she and Matthew live pretty comfortably with their combined salaries.
However, she doesn’t want to leave CJ out of fun trips and events, so she invites her to every vacation or special outing they go on and pays for her tickets.
She also tries to get CJ little gifts throughout the year to show her that she still cares. She’s trying hard to even out her children’s experiences, although she knows CJ’s childhood and her young kid’s childhoods will never be similar.
She’s tried to apologize to CJ about everything multiple times, but she hasn’t accepted it.
The treatment Jack and Melissa receive bugs CJ, and she’s outwardly mentioned her bitterness to the whole family.
Unfortunately, things got pretty bad recently when the entire family went to see the off-Broadway production of Frozen for Jack’s birthday.
After the show, they all went out to dinner. She had noticed that CJ was acting strange the entire evening like she was upset and bottling something up.
Then, suddenly, when they were about to start discussing the musical, CJ turned to Jack and bitterly said, “You know what I got for my 5th birthday, Jack? A Barbie from the dollar store.”
Thankfully, the kids didn’t really understand her comment and were fine. But the adults around the table certainly could feel the tension.
“I was civil the rest of the meal but later called CJ and told her what she did was unacceptable,” she explained. “I cannot continuously apologize for her upbringing, and she can’t throw it in my face.”
She asked CJ if she would rather her give her siblings less throughout their childhood, just like she had to when she was a baby. CJ said no, but feels that she’s entitled to express her anger whenever she wants to.
They’re still arguing about what happened, and she’s beginning to wonder if she’s been unfair as a mother.
Do you think CJ is being reasonable, or should she cut her mom some slack?
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