Check Yourself Before You Wreck Yourself: 5 Things To Do To Avoid Being A Bridezilla
Everyone knows that planning a wedding is simultaneously exhilarating and totally overwhelming. Most brides-to-be want everything to flow seamlessly on their big day– and I completely get that.
While it is entirely valid to idealize your wedding day, though, it’s also important that you avoid becoming a “bridezilla.”
When there is so much pressure to host a picture-perfect ceremony and reception, brides can sometimes become overly demanding, difficult to work with, and downright controlling.
These attitudes and behaviors are what land brides in hot water and give them the label “bridezilla.”
Now obviously, this phrase is less than flattering, and no bride wants to be referred to that before their big day. At the same time, though, bridezilla behavior makes the wedding planning process even more stressful for everyone else, too– from your friends and family to even your partner.
So, if you are a bride-to-be, it is crucial that you remain self-aware and take proactive steps to prevent making your wedding planning an even more overwhelming experience for everyone involved.
1. Get Organized
One of the main reasons brides resort to “bridezilla” behavior is because they feel overwhelmed and out of control. But there are some simple steps you can take to avoid this.
Start by prioritizing organization throughout the wedding planning process. Make lists of everything that you need to complete before your big day. Plus, create timelines with deadlines so you can chunk up your responsibilities and focus on more pressing matters first.
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There are countless ways to do this– whether you choose to use a wedding planning app or go old-fashioned with a notebook.
Regardless of your chosen method, you’ll be able to keep track of everything that needs to be done and feel more in control of the situation by staying organized.
2. Set Realistic Expectations
Another cause of bridezilla behavior is setting unrealistic expectations for yourself and others.
Of course, we would all love a picturesque, fairytale wedding with no drama or hiccups. But it’s important to remember that weddings are complex events, and things don’t always go according to plan– just like life.
So be realistic about what you can achieve within your budget and timeframe. Don’t expect perfection, and be prepared to compromise.
If you set realistic expectations, you’ll be less likely to become frustrated, angry, and disappointed when things don’t go exactly as planned.
Plus, if some factors exceed your expectations, you may even end up being pleasantly surprised.
3. Communicate Effectively
Communication is key when it comes to avoiding bridezilla behavior.
Make sure that you communicate effectively with your partner, your vendors, and your bridal party about any needs or wants.
And be as clear as possible about what you want and expect so there are no misunderstandings. But also be willing to listen to other people’s ideas and opinions.
Finally, don’t be afraid to ask for help when you need it, and be open to constructive criticism.
By communicating effectively, you’ll be able to work collaboratively with others, and you’ll be less likely to become defensive or hostile.
4. Don’t Forget To Take Care Of Yourself
Wedding planning can be incredibly draining, so it’s important to take care of yourself both physically and mentally. First of all, make sure that you’re getting enough sleep, eating well, and getting regular exercise.
On top of that, you should take breaks whenever you need to and make time for relaxation and self-care. Put down the wedding planning binder from time to time to go for a walk, hang out with your dog, or do a fun facial.
Sometimes, just taking time away from a task and returning well-rested can make all the difference.
But, if you’re feeling seriously overwhelmed, don’t be afraid to talk to someone you trust– such as a friend or family member. You can even consider seeking professional help.
By taking care of yourself, you’ll be better able to manage your emotions and avoid becoming a bridezilla.
5. Keep Everything In Perspective
Finally, it’s important to keep things in perspective when it comes to your wedding.
Yes, your wedding is a significant life milestone. But remember that it’s not the most important thing in the whole entire world.
Remind yourself that the purpose of the wedding is to celebrate your love and commitment to your partner, not to create a perfect day.
Instead, focus on what’s truly important, and don’t get caught up in all of the little details.
And if something goes wrong, keep in mind that the world is not ending. Rather, try to have a sense of humor, enjoy yourself, and refrain from taking the process too seriously.
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