Her Boyfriend Admitted That He Misses Being Single Sometimes, So Now She Isn’t Sure If She Should Break Up With Him
This 23-year-old woman has been with her boyfriend, who is 32, for about a year now. And according to her, her boyfriend shows his love in both actions and words.
They also work together to prioritize healthy communication, which is why they each participate in a monthly “relationship check-in.”
During these conversations, she and her boyfriend share how they feel in their relationship and set goals for upcoming months whenever there are any issues.
“He was the one who suggested this dynamic, and we haven’t had any major issues so far,” she revealed.
But, just last night, they had their May check-in. And during that discussion, her boyfriend admitted to overthinking things a lot since he is unsure about various facets of his life.
Now, she has known for a long time that her boyfriend struggles with commitment in terms of his career. Apparently, he has changed jobs multiple times even though he is a hardworking and responsible employee.
On top of that, her boyfriend is not sure where he would like to live and cannot really see himself settling down in one place forever.
“He is aware that this inability to feel satisfied without questioning whether there’s something better out there is pathological, and he is working on it with a therapist,” she explained.
She has also known that her boyfriend sometimes wonders about their relationship. However, he never broke her trust or let his fear of commitment get in the way of being faithful to her.
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That’s why she never had a problem with her boyfriend’s doubts when it came to other parts of his life. After all, she realizes that they can just deal with those problems when they arise and go with the flow for now– as long as her boyfriend is sure about their actual relationship.
Well, during their latest relationship check-in, she realized that might not be the case.
Apparently, when she asked her boyfriend to elaborate on what he had been overthinking, he claimed to sometimes miss “the freedom of being single.”
It is important to note that her boyfriend said he didn’t feel the need to be physical with another person.
Instead, he claimed to miss being single in a “broader sense” and longed for “the thrill of not knowing what will be of your life and whom you’d share it with.”
Her boyfriend recognized that there were obviously perks of being in a relationship, too. So, he claimed that, right now, he is sure that is what he wants.
Nonetheless, he still pointed out that being single also came with a different set of perks that he used to enjoy.
Anyway, she knows that she should not take her boyfriend’s statements personally. And she also does not want to hold any of these comments against him since they were shared with her in a safe place.
Still, ever since hearing her boyfriend say those things, some of her doubts about them being compatible were just reinforced.
She admitted to having a bunch of fun while she was single, too. But, she believes those moments of fun don’t even compare to what it’s like when you are able to rely on someone, grow, and develop habits together.
Up until this point, she has enjoyed all of that with her boyfriend, too, and never doubted that was what she wanted.
Now, though, she is starting to wonder if she wants someone else who is able to love her in the same way.
“I am not afraid of breaking up at some point if there’s a good reason, but I’d like to feel secure and completely reciprocated in the meantime,” she said.
So, while she knows she is not perfect, she believes she is a trustworthy partner who deserves to feel appreciated, too.
That’s why, ever since the check-in conversation, she’s been left wondering whether she should break up with her boyfriend.
Is it good that her boyfriend felt safe enough to share that information with her? Even so, can you understand why his admitting to missing being single made her feel uneasy? How do you think she should navigate this situation? Would you break up with him if you were in her shoes?
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