His Girlfriend Found Out That They First Met Because He Was Just “Taking One For The Team” And Being His Friend’s Wingman For Another Girl
About two years ago, this 22-year-old guy went to a party with his friend, Josh. After hanging out for a while, they spotted two girls– one of whom Josh was interested in.
The girl was reportedly a pretty blonde who was with another “heavier” female friend. He claimed that the girl’s friend was not unattractive by any means, just “noticeably bigger” than average.
Anyway, Josh wound up turning to him and asking him to be a wingman by “taking one for the team” and talking to the blonde girl’s friend. At the same time, Josh planned to swoop in and win the blonde girl over.
He ultimately agreed to Josh’s plan, too, since he wanted to be a good friend. So, he went in first and started chatting with the second girl– keeping her distracted.
Then, Josh entered the situation and started flirting with the blonde girl.
“Again, this friend I was talking to was by no means unattractive, just a bit heavier than what most guys– myself included at the time– would go for,” he clarified.
“And I thought she was very sweet, even though I was just talking to her out of obligation.”
Regardless, that didn’t end up mattering since the blonde girl Josh was interested in wound up having a boyfriend.
So, after that girl brushed Josh off, his friend patted him on the back and signaled that it was time for them to go.
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At that point, he decided to just politely end his conversation with the blonde girl’s friend. But, before he left, the friend asked him for his Instagram.
He didn’t think much of it at the time and handed over his account name. Still, he never thought he would see the woman again.
Well, just a few days later, he was at his college campus’ store when he ran into the very same girl. He didn’t recognize her at first, but she recognized him immediately.
They started chatting for a little while, and he was reminded that her name was Megan. Yet, out of nowhere, the small talk seemed to take an awkward turn.
“I asked her if everything was alright, and she replied that nothing was wrong, but she wanted to know if I wanted to go out with her sometime,” he recalled.
“This actually came as a shock to me as it was the first time a girl had ever made the first move and asked me out. So, even though she wasn’t really my type at the time, I said yes. And that was probably the best decision of my life.”
He and Megan hit it off super quickly, and it didn’t take long for them to enter a serious relationship. Any hesitations he had about her weight immediately melted away after they were physical since he found Megan to be extremely “soft” and “comforting.”
He even admitted to never feeling more relaxed when cuddling with someone before he met his girlfriend.
They have since been dating for about two years now, and he claims to seriously love Megan, too. She reportedly meant everything to him, and he even planned to propose once they were finished with school.
However, just last month, things took a tragic turn after an unfortunate, drunken admission.
It all began when they decided to host a small get-together with a few other friends who were also in relationships with the goal of having a couples game night.
Josh attended the game night, too, and wound up getting pretty drunk. Then, Josh actually made an inappropriate joke about how if he had not been forced to “take one for the team,” then he never would have met Megan and found the love of his life.
Now, at the time, he admitted that the joke didn’t really seem negative– mainly because he was drunk and just laughed it off.
Megan had been right next to him, though, and was obviously confused. So, she asked Josh what he meant by the remark.
He tried to tell his girlfriend that it didn’t mean anything. But, his still-drunk friend decided to elaborate and told the story about how he met Megan but from his perspective.
All Megan had to say afterward was, “Oh,” although she didn’t really react otherwise. That’s why he assumed that she had just brushed off the comment.
Yet, throughout the rest of the night, his girlfriend still seemed a bit sad and distant. Then, once everyone left, she finally let her emotions out and started crying.
“She was essentially in shock because this whole time she thought I approached her then because I was interested in her, and learning it was because I was forced to just brought back old insecurities within her,” he explained.
“It doesn’t help that she’s actually gained weight since back then, even though I don’t really have any problem with that and have told her that multiple times.”
After he heard how upset his girlfriend was, he gave Megan the entire story right away– detailing how he fell in love with her right afterward and has loved her ever since.
At the time, she seemed reassured by that, too, and they did cuddle for the rest of the night.
Still, since that evening, he’s noticed that Megan has begun acting differently, as though she has lost her confidence around him.
Nowadays, his girlfriend only wears large, baggy clothing around him– which she never used to do before. She also refuses to change with him in the room anymore and will barely eat around him.
‘Before, I also used to playfully tickle her stomach sometimes, and she’d always smile and play along. But now, she seems insecure when I so much as accidentally graze it. And she refuses to [be physical] without a shirt on,” he added.
So, he has tried sitting Megan down numerous times to talk about how attractive he thinks she is. He also claimed that there was no one more beautiful than her.
Regardless, his girlfriend just doesn’t believe him, and he doesn’t know what to do anymore.
“Lately, I’ve been thinking about offering for her to come to the gym with me, but I’m scared she may be more insecure at that suggestion,” he vented.
That’s why he’s been left wondering how to get his girlfriend to feel confident again and believe that he truly loves her no matter what she looks like.
How would you feel if you found out your partner first approached you out of obligation? Can you understand why his girlfriend is so insecure now? How can he work to rebuild his girlfriend’s confidence and trust in him?
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