She Told Her Fiancé That She Needed To Take A Break Because She Doesn’t Think She’s Over Her Ex-Boyfriend

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This 25-year-old woman is engaged to her 26-year-old fiancé and has been with him for a little under 2 years.

Her fiancé is sweet and wonderful. He always thinks of buying flowers for her, and he puts a lot of effort into creating dates for them to go on.

She has to admit that he’s the most incredible man, but for some reason, she never dreams about him.

Instead, when she falls asleep at night, it’s her ex-boyfriend that runs through her dreams and not the man of her dreams.

Now, she and her ex broke up more than 2 and a half years ago. Her ex was struggling with depression back then, and although she did her best to support him and his journey to getting better, it didn’t help him.

Instead, her mission to help her ex kind of backfired on her. She still doesn’t know if she was too overbearing or if he met another woman at work, but she’s guessing he did find another woman.

She does recall that before her ex dumped her, he was being really “sneaky” about certain phone calls.

“One day, he said he saw a future with me and wanted to marry me and have kids together someday, and a week later, he suddenly canceled plans and said he didn’t like me anymore and wanted to end it,” she explained.

“A friend told me not to leave his side since my friend had wished his GF didn’t leave him when depression was making him push her away. So I tried to help and offer support, but that obviously was a (bad) idea. It only sealed the deal in steel.”

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She is still in touch with her ex to this day, and they will occasionally send one another text messages about nothing in particular. She does not believe that she’s still in love with her ex, but she does have some lingering feelings of remorse, guilt, and anxiety over their relationship.

When her ex dumped her, that marked the first time that she had gotten dumped, and she felt that it was so “one-sided.”

Post-breakup, she was terrified of being abandoned, and she was concerned there was something seriously wrong with her to have caused her ex to dump her.

But her fiancé came into her life, and he showed her unconditional love while giving her the security she needed.

“And now I am the one running away after promising marriage,” she said. “I was to marry my fiancé in October this year, but I feel like I am being unfaithful to him by having some man pop up into my dreams every month or so. I now am starting to resent my ex as well as my fiancé. I keep subconsciously nitpicking at his flaws in my mind to justify why I am unhappy (I guess), and I wish my ex would get run over by a truck or something.”

“This is not the type of person I am. I don’t understand why I have such strong feelings of regret, anxiety, rage, and sadness inside me, and I don’t know how to let it out.”

So, she ultimately asked her fiancé for a break, but she’s thinking she should end things because she knows she is not over her ex, which is what her fiancé deserves.

Do you think taking a break is best or do you think she should break up with her fiancé for good?

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