This 23-year-old girl has spent three and a half years with her 25-year-old boyfriend, and every 6 months, they have the exact same discussion.
This discussion revolves around if she will change her last name to her boyfriend’s last name when they do decide to get married in the very distant future.
Ever since she first started dating her boyfriend, she has told him that she has no intention of changing her last name to his.
“I have numerous reasons not to, a few including, I’m going to be a medical doctor, so changing my name would be a difficult process for me and my business, I don’t like the idea of only one person losing their identity when getting married I personally believe it should be both people change, or no one changes, and I just don’t like his last name, I like the way my last name sounds significantly more than I like his,” she explained.
“Previous times we’ve discussed this, we agreed on creating a new name and both of us changing our name.”
But, her boyfriend currently feels differently and no longer wants to use a brand new last name for the both of them.
Instead, her boyfriend firmly believes that she needs to change her last name to his so that she can “follow along with his dream.”
Her boyfriend also thinks that since he is helping to support her dream of becoming a doctor, she owes him one.
And in his opinion, that means she needs to just agree to go along with him wanting her to take his last name.
“I understand the points he makes, and if it was anything besides my name, I would have agreed,” she said.
“But this isn’t about what color to paint a house or what kind of pet to get. This is my name, my identity. I don’t want to erase my connection to the person I was and the person I’ve become due to my past experiences.”
“We’ve been arguing since July 6th about this, and as each day goes by, it feels more and more like we won’t be able to agree on this and that I will need to break up with him. Which is something I would very much like to avoid at all costs.”
She’s left wondering if there is any way for them to reach a compromise or if this is the end of the line for them.
What do you think?
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