He Wouldn’t Dip Into His Son’s Inheritance To Pay For His Stepdaughter’s Medical Bills, And His Wife Became So Enraged That He And His Son Were Forced To Move Out
If you’re a parent who’s opened a savings account for your child, have you ever faced the difficult decision to dip into their account to pay for something important?
One man recently got into an argument with his wife after refusing to use some of his son’s inheritance money to pay for his stepdaughter’s medical bills.
He’s 40-years-old and has a 15-year-old son. His late wife, Cassy, who is his son’s mother, died ten years ago and left behind a large sum of money for them.
The money was used to pay off any of her medical bills and funeral expenses, and then the rest of it, which is still a large amount, was put into a savings account for his son.
He remarried four years ago to a woman named Andi, who has an 11-year-old daughter from a previous marriage.
Before getting married, he and Andi discussed their finances. He discovered she also had a savings account set up for her daughter, but it didn’t have nearly as much in it as his son’s, as her daughter’s father didn’t contribute anything and wasn’t in the picture.
He and Andi ultimately decided they’d share and combine most of their finances but continue contributing to their own biological children’s savings accounts. Therefore, Andi doesn’t put any money in his son’s account, and he doesn’t put any in her daughter’s account.
“Everything with that was fine until September,” he said.
“My stepdaughter was born with some medical problems. These problems require daily meds and surgery on occasion. In September, my stepdaughter had surgery that went badly and created more problems. Andi found my stepdaughter a new doctor, and this new doctor discovered a further complication that required a new and costly medication in the short term and a big surgery. The surgery costs a lot, but we would pay it off eventually.”
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Recently, Andi suggested they ask his son if they can take the money needed to pay her daughter’s new medical bills out of his savings account. She said it would cover all the costs immediately, and his son would still have plenty of money left over.
He told Andi he had an issue with that idea and that he didn’t want anyone but his son to have access to the money in that account. However, he later discovered that Andi went ahead and asked his son for the money without his permission.
His son told Andi she couldn’t take his money, and she became enraged. She confronted him, which was how he found out she talked to his son and told him it was easy for him to say no because he wasn’t the one with a sick child.
“I told her that did not give her the right to ask my son, who is still a child, for money,” he recalled.
“Things got so heated that my son and I moved out because Andi and I did nothing but fight, and she then went on to say some crazy things, like that my son hates her daughter and wants her to die. Andi’s parents have interjected now and called me out for refusing to alleviate the stress of medical bills for Andi and my stepdaughter.”
He tried explaining to Andi and her parents that he was still prepared to pay for her daughter’s surgery but didn’t want to do it with his son’s inheritance. However, they’re still very upset.
Was he wrong not to give Andi the money from his son’s account?
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