This 29-year-old woman has a boyfriend the same age as her. They have been dating for several years, and they live together in a house that she owns.
She has always planned on living with a man first before buying a home together. The thing is, her house is tiny and doesn’t have a nice garden or decent parking.
Her house is also in a less-than-ideal location, so these are the reasons why she has dreamed of selling her place and getting something new.
When she brought all this up to her boyfriend, that was when he said he was hesitant to jump in and purchase a house before they tested out living together, so he moved in with her five months ago.
They then began looking at homes to buy, and she put her own house up for sale.
“Throughout the last few months we’ve gone to house viewings on multiple weekends, told our friends and family, and gotten excited about certain houses and how to make them our own,” she explained.
“Now I’m in a position to sell and we’ve found a lovely house but he’s just told me he’s gotten cold feet and it’s all happening at once and he wants to back out.”
“He wants to potentially buy solo and commute to each other’s house, or save up and buy in the future potentially years down the line.”
She can’t help but feel betrayed, as they have spent months looking at houses, and now her boyfriend wants to back out without a good reason.
She’s concerned that her boyfriend is actually afraid to commit to her and doesn’t see himself spending the rest of his life with her.
She is upset too that her boyfriend hasn’t stopped to consider her feelings in all of this; he’s just thinking about himself.
“He always was going to buy solo before me, and was going to buy without me, and then was going to buy with me, and now not buy at all,” she said.
“I could have bought myself a nicer house a year ago solo but I thought we’d buy together and now he’s not sure at all.”
What advice do you have for her?
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