She Doesn't Want Her Fiancé's Disabled Cousin To Steal Her Spotlight And Have A Miracle Moment Walking Down The Aisle At Her Wedding

"She had a very traumatic, near-death birthing experience; the baby is healthy now. But she was in the hospital for 4 months and became wheelchair bound. She has done extensive physical therapy and has had to learn to walk again," she explained.

She recently attended a family dinner, and Emily's mom was there. Emily's mom questioned her about whether she had all of her bridesmaids lined up for the wedding.

She confirmed that she did, and listed out her best friends from when she was younger, along with her college friends and her sister.

Emily's mom then said she should ask Emily to be a bridesmaid so she can set a goal of walking on her own in time for the wedding.

She said sorry to Emily's mom and pointed out that she had paid for all of the bridesmaid dresses and alterations. Emily's mom then said Emily has been feeling really down lately and needs this in her life.

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She asked Emily's mom if she had even spoken to Emily about this plan, and she said she had, before offering to pay for everything that it would entail.

"I once again stated no thank you, but she’s welcome to come to the wedding and be a guest. Then the whole family started in on how we should just do this, and it could be amazing that she would go halfway down the aisle in her wheelchair and then get up and walk the rest of the way," she added.

"This would showcase her hard work. While I [know] this would be nice, I’m selfish. It’s my wedding; I don’t want the thunder stolen. I want us to be the main characters, not her."

"I told my fiancé, and he’s understanding, but the rest of the family is upset that I don’t just let her do it....should I just let her do it or should I just stick to my guns and offer her a guest placement (she wasn’t originally invited since again we’re not close and it’s a destination wedding)?"

I'm with her on this one; Emily doesn't need to take away her spotlight. Allowing Emily to have her miracle moment walking down the aisle would effectively make the day about Emily and not her.

I am always so confused when I hear about family members who try to make a wedding about anyone but the happy couple. I'm worried that if she even compromises and invites Emily as a guest, there might be a spotlight-stealing moment anyway.

Better to let Emily stay home, and she can offer to throw a party for her or something to showcase her recovery. Then, she can play this up as Emily being the star of her own show and having a day that is all about her and her milestone.

What advice do you have for her?

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