This 27-year-old woman currently lives with her boyfriend, who is 28. And whenever they are together, he is constantly chatting online with friends.
Yet, when they are apart, she’s noticed that her boyfriend basically never responds to her messages– even if she knows that he’s definitely on his phone. And this is seriously starting to tick her off.
Yes, she realizes that when her boyfriend is at work, it’s a completely different story, and she can’t be angry about his lack of responsiveness.
“But even during his downtime, he doesn’t respond often even though I know he’s online,” she explained.
“I’m not expecting constant communication, but not being completely ignored all day would be appreciated.”
There was a specific incident, for instance, when her boyfriend went out with one of his friends for an evening. She had texted him at 5:00 p.m. that night, and he never responded despite being consistently online the entire evening up until 3:00 a.m.
To make matters worse, she didn’t even know that her boyfriend had gone out that night. And as his girlfriend, she thought she should have been informed.
She tried calling her boyfriend that night, too, but he just kept declining her calls– which really frustrated her.
So, she wound up bringing up her annoyance, and her boyfriend apologized, claiming that he hadn’t been online at all.
Afterward, he also turned off a specific status setting on all of his social media accounts, taking away the ability to see when he is actively online.
“And when I asked why, he said it was personal preference,” she recalled.
Her boyfriend only recently turned his Messenger back on after a few months, and she took notice, too. Yet, despite being active on Messenger all day, he still barely responds to her texts.
The reason why his lack of responsiveness ticks her off so much is that they work extremely different hours right now. So, they really don’t get to chat that much during the week in person.
“And it’s disheartening to see him engaged in conversations with others while leaving my messages unanswered,” she admitted.
However, she’s not too sure if feeling annoyed by this is reasonable or an overreaction.
“I think I just want to be a priority or for him to actually want to speak to me,” she vented.
Have you ever been with a partner who didn’t really text you back? Does it seem like she has a right to be annoyed, or is she being overbearing? How can she better communicate her frustrations to reconcile this situation in their relationship?
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By Katharina Buczek
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