Ever Since Her Friend Started Transitioning From Female To Male, She No Longer Likes Him, Because He’s Rude And Attacks Femininity
This 21-year-old girl has a best friend named James, whom she has been close to throughout her entire life.
Not only are she and James close, but their families are too. She and James spent nearly every single day of high school together, and back then, James identified as female.
She’s super-feminine herself and loves fashion, makeup, skincare, and spending time with her female friends.
In high school, James was the exact same way, and it’s something they bonded over. Their femininity was a major reason why they honestly were best friends.
Then, they moved to college, and James surprised her by coming out as trans. James then quickly began hormones, which shocked her further, though she supported James completely.
“I did feel like I lost a friend in a way, but I kept my feelings to myself,” she explained. “The problem really started after his transition became noticeable.”
“First of all, James became very hostile towards the feminine things he used to enjoy. He says things like “Makeup is for insecure girls”, “skincare is such a scam, only dumb people fall for that”, “olivia rodrigo? are you 12?” & that REALLY bothers me.”
“We’ve had several fights about this. It always ends with him using being trans as an excuse to [attack] femininity. I understand he has a complicated relationship with it, but I can’t stand how rude and demeaning he is to me, even if unintentionally.”
The second major problem in their friendship is that they always used to cuddle and sleep in the same bed ever since they were really, really little.
Andrey Kiselev – stock.adobe.com – illustrative purposes only, not the actual person
She never had a boyfriend who saw a problem with that, and she and James never were romantic about it.
It strictly was a reassuring part of their friendship and something they both really did enjoy for the comfort factor.
“Still, after James transitioned, I am no longer comfortable with it,” she said. “I don’t want to cuddle a male friend, it makes me feel weird.”
“I can’t control my feelings over this. I’d just feel gross. I don’t want to feel like this, but I do. James has a huge problem with this.”
Several weeks ago, James asked to sleep over at her place, so she made up the guest room for James to sleep in.
James was so offended by what she did that he actually went home instead of sleeping over that evening.
They proceeded to not speak to one another for two whole weeks, and then James texted her out of the blue one day like nothing was wrong.
“Those 2 weeks were the most peaceful in the past 2 years,” she continued. “We argue every time we see each other.”
“If I don’t make the time to see him, he accuses me of not liking him anymore and abandoning him. The truth is, I DON’T LIKE HIM ANYMORE.”
“I do not like this person. It’s not about the fact he’s trans; it’s about the fact that we have nothing in common anymore, and he’s constantly rude to me.”
She has tried to speak to James about her concerns multiple times, but James will not hear her out or consider how she feels.
Instead, James feels “justified in being offensive to femininity” and believes she needs to get with his new program.
She’s tired of trying to be friends with James anymore, especially since she’s always met with such hostility.
“I still love him and don’t want to hurt him. How can I cut him off in the least painful way?” she wondered.
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