Are you ever with someone and find that they have a hard time picking up on when another person is being rude?
One man was surprised to hear his wife was upset about a recent visit with his coworker, who was rude towards her while visiting their house and new baby.
He and his wife are in their 30s and had a baby eight weeks ago. His coworker, Emma, recently went to their house to say hello and visit the baby. Emma has been in their lives for a while now, and they’ve maintained a friendly relationship outside of work.
While he didn’t see anything wrong with it in the moment, Emma’s visit was a bit disappointing, as she acted strange and did some other things that alarmed his wife.
Emma made a few snide remarks about his wife’s postpartum recovery and tried to make her feel like he was the one suffering the most, as he had to go back to work while his wife stayed at home on maternity leave.
Before the baby was born, Emma made these promises that she’d cook for them and bring a bunch of food over when she met the baby for the first time, but she arrived at their house empty-handed.
“She [also] talked to me more than to my wife, almost sucking up to me,” he recalled.
“She brought up work-related conversations and talked about technology. I reciprocated some of this, as I like to talk about tech, but it made my wife feel isolated. I regret not picking up on this in the moment.”
Before Emma left their house, they spoke about a new computer that had come out, and Emma mentioned her kids would love it. He enthusiastically gave her some tips on the computer, and eventually, Emma made her way home.
When Emma left, his wife expressed how disappointed she was with the visit and how rude Emma was.
Later that day, Emma texted him and his wife, telling them she enjoyed their visit and that their baby was cute. His wife sent a short response while he thanked Emma for stopping by and sent her some links to the computer they were discussing.
“My wife now feels hurt and betrayed by me,” he added.
“She thinks I have dismissed her feelings, and I’m not on her side. She also feels this [behavior] is part of a pattern for me. I am in control of who I choose to text, but ultimately, I’m not certain if I should have been more mindful of her feelings and supported her by not sending those messages.”
Should he have been more considerate of his wife and said something to Emma about her behavior?
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