Ever Since He Had A Glow Up, His Girlfriend Has Gotten Controlling And Paranoid
There’s a somewhat rare congenital deformity called Pectus Excavatum, which affects the chest wall and is more common in boys than girls.
This 26-year-old man was diagnosed with it, and in his case, his chest looked sunken in. For him, the deformity was quite bad. He suffered from not being able to fully expand his lungs over the years, so he wasn’t able to be that physically active.
His heart was also impacted in that there was a bit more pressure exerted upon it because of his condition.
“For most of my life, I kind of just accepted that this; I would look a little freaky when I took my shirt off, and I would never be much of an athlete since I wouldn’t have any major lung capacity, but it was fine,” he explained.
“There are surgeries to correct the condition or at least make it better, but I grew up relatively poor, and the surgery was crazy expensive if insurance didn’t seem necessary enough (American), so I always made do, and I didn’t think it was fixable for me.”
Several years ago, he landed a job with great insurance and a wonderful salary, so last spring, he had the surgery done.
It was the best decision for him, as he feels so confident without a shirt on, and the surgery helped make exercising a ton easier.
Throughout the past year, he’s gotten quite fit. He’s lost weight and looks amazing. Aside from that, he had some moles on his face and body removed.
“So no more weird ribs, much more fit, and fewer moles,” he said. “I feel amazing, much healthier, and more confident in myself and my appearance.”
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While he appreciates his glow up, his girlfriend, Meghan, definitely doesn’t. Meghan hasn’t supported his changes, and she’s grown completely insecure about his new level of attractiveness.
She frequently makes snide remarks when he goes to work out or if he mentions that he feels good physically.
She’s extremely controlling and paranoid, too, especially when he tries to hang out with his friends or talks to girls.
“I only have eyes for her, but she has done things like institute a soft curfew (used to not care when I was out with friends as long as it wasn’t like 3 a.m. on a weekday; now she gets mad if I’m home after 10:30 almost any day), glue herself to me when we are talking to friends like at a house party, questions what I’m doing whenever she sees me texting someone and gets particularly antsy and texts me constantly if I’m out and she knows I’m drinking alcohol somewhere without me,” he added.
“I have tried to ask her to back off and reassure her that I’m not interested in anyone else to no success.”
“She has expressed that she has good reasons to be worried (not much specifics) and even one time said that she liked me for my personality before all these other people just liked me for my looks, lowkey implying that she thought I was ugly or something beforehand?”
Two evenings ago, he was out at a bar with a few friends. He arrived at the same time as a female friend of his, so they grabbed drinks, and the bartender accidentally put their orders on the same tab.
He paid for his friend’s drink since it was only $6. Later on, Meghan got there, and his female friend bought him a drink as a thank-you for buying her one earlier.
Meghan got upset when he told her why his friend was purchasing a drink for him. Meghan stated she wanted to go home after that, so they did.
Back home, they got into a blowout fight, as Meghan accused his friend of hitting on him. It escalated from there, and Meghan insisted he cheated on her.
She nastily said that his female friend had never once looked at him before his appearance drastically changed, so this girl didn’t deserve to get his attention now.
“I’m just really upset by the things she’s saying and suggesting that I would cheat on her now that I’m “hot” or whatever,” he continued.
“I don’t know how to reassure her or get her to back off, and I feel like I made a mistake in trying to take care of my body.”
“I don’t know what I’m supposed to do and feel like reverse body shamed. What can I do to fix this? I don’t want to break up, but I don’t know how to feel safe in my own skin or out with friends anymore.”
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