Now That His Girlfriend Has Been Diagnosed With Terminal Cancer, She Wants To Open Up Their Relationship So She Can Experience What It’s Like To Be With Someone Else
A 29-year-old guy is currently dating his girlfriend, who is 27. Sadly, she was recently diagnosed with terminal cancer, and it’s expected that she will not live past 2 more years.
Her doctors suspect that his girlfriend will have a year left until she begins to not feel as normal, so for the next year, she will be able to travel and see the rest of the world.
“Then she’ll start deteriorating and end up in the hospital for the final few weeks or couple of months,” he explained.
“Of course, this entire situation is devastating, and it breaks my heart that we both know what’s coming. When she was diagnosed, she said she understands if I wanted to leave, so I don’t waste my late 20s with someone that we both know there’s no long, happy life ahead with.”
The thing is, he has no intention of leaving her until the very end. He wants to be by her side to help give her the support that she needs.
And for right now, he’s been doing everything possible to help make his girlfriend happy and show her the best the world has to offer until she does get very sick.
His girlfriend also just admitted to him that she wants to have an open relationship so that she has the ability to experience someone else while she can.
She does plan on sleeping with men and women, and this conversation was completely unexpected for him.
“Gut punch for sure, but I figured I would at least hear her out,” he said. “Her reasoning is twofold. First, it’s that “I’m dying, and I want the excitement of new people.” And second, she says that as much fun as we have, there’s always the gloom of what’s going to happen hanging over us, and getting to go out and have fun with someone who has no idea what’s going on seems like it’ll really help her not to think about it.”
astrosystem – stock.adobe.com – illustrative purposes only, not the actual people
“As far as reasons go for wanting to do something like this and risk our relationship, I can at least somewhat get it. I’m not saying she’s in the right to ask me this just because she’s dying, but I’m also not saying she’s inherently wrong. I don’t know what I would do if I was in her position.”
“I would like to think that I’d just want to live the rest of my life with the person I love most and experience the world together, but I’ve never been told I had two years or less to live.”
He can understand where his girlfriend is coming from, and he gets that she does want to live footloose and fancy-free while she still has time.
His empathy for her situation doesn’t make it hurt any less that she wants to see other people, though, and he’s scared that will destroy their relationship. He really does love his girlfriend deeply, and he does not want to do anything to cause her to resent him at all with her time left.
“I’m mad at her for putting me in this position because I honestly don’t see how we will last if she opts to do this,” he continued.
“But then thinking of her in the hospital with no one by her side in her last few weeks breaks my heart. Or her coming home to an empty house on days when she has nothing else planned. It’s just sad to think about.”
What would you do in his situation?
You can read the original post on Reddit here.
If true crime defines your free time, this is for you: join Chip Chick’s True Crime Tribe
Sign up for Chip Chick’s newsletter and get stories like this delivered to your inbox.
More About:Romance
Read This Next
