Her Boyfriend Has Been Living Many Double Lives And Cheating On Her With Dozens Of Girls, But When She Confronted Him, He Started Finding Her Replacement
This 30-year-old woman has been dating her 37-year-old boyfriend, John, for the last three years, and they initially met in Dallas during the pandemic, as that’s where they live.
Recently, they went on a trip to Chicago, and this past Friday evening, they were in an Uber coming back from a sporting event when she saw a text pop up on his phone.
John was able to swipe out of it in the blink of an eye, but not before she could recognize that it was a photo of some girl’s skin.
She asked him what that was, and he insisted it was nothing. He then opened up his phone again, and she made a note of his passcode.
After they arrived back at their hotel, John got on Uber Eats, and she asked him what he was going to order.
“He tells me to order my own food on my account,” she explained. “I’m like, okay? Weird, and he seemed annoyed with me. I pull up my own app and peek over at his phone to see what he might be getting so I don’t order [the] same genre of food, and he’s looking at another woman.”
“Pausing on her body, going to her page, zooming in, all while I’m next to him. I say something, and he totally gets defensive and says, “I’m not dealing with this,” and he leaves the hotel room [at] about 9:30 pm. He doesn’t come back until after 4 a.m.”
“When I woke up, and he was still sleeping off whatever he did the night before, I got his phone off [the] nightstand and go in the bathroom with it and lock the door.”
She opened up her notes to get John’s passcode, and she unlocked his phone to go through it. She was shocked to discover that he had dozens of women in his phone.
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She also saw in his phone that around 1 in the morning, he sent some girl he had saved in his phone as “Chicago” $300.
She was able to get in contact with this girl, who told her that her boyfriend was all over her and all of her friends and that she made out with him.
“There was a woman he overnighted with in New Mexico 2 weeks before, multiple women in Colorado the week before that, multiple women from our home state in Texas, and women he met in Chicago when I was working from home in the room while we were on a trip together,” she said.
“He was sending them money, they were exchanging [steamy photos], he’s been inviting them on trips, telling one to come visit the day after I was set to leave. Mind you, he’s been telling me he loves me, and he wants a family with me for years.”
So, John has been cheating on her with tons of women for more than a year now. She has been able to contact a lot of these girls to issue a warning about him, and none of them had a clue she existed.
Her boyfriend has been telling girls that he was single. What upsets her even more, is that he has been sending flowers and money to several single moms and pretending to be in relationships with them, yet when she was pregnant two years ago, he told her she shouldn’t go through with it because he did not want to be a dad.
She had absolutely no clue that John was living many double lives and cheating on her with dozens of girls.
She did confront him while they were still in Chicago, and he wasn’t sorry at all. He even said to her that he has zero empathy for her.
She ended up losing it on him and then going back to Dallas on Saturday alone with her heart in pieces.
“That same day I left, John was already lining up my replacement,” she continued. “One of the women showed me that while I was crying on my flight back to Texas, John was literally recruiting my replacement the same day.”
“I reached out to multiple women that he had been exchanging with- the women were disgusted and had no idea. One of them told me that she met him at a hotel party A YEAR AGO, and he tried to [hook up] with her and some [other girl]…”
She and John were absolutely in a serious relationship at that point in time, and she feels sick to her stomach that he could do that to her.
John has been insisting he wants to get married to her and spend the rest of his life with her, yet that was all a lie. He told her he’s in love with her and would do anything in his power to protect her, but he was doing incredibly hurtful things behind her back.
Several weeks ago, they had a balloon festival trip planned in New Mexico, but then John created a big fight with her for no reason at all. He ended up uninviting her on the trip, and she found out that he did this so that he could instead spend that whole weekend with one of his other girls in his lineup.
She got to speak to this girl, who confirmed that she hooked up with John in New Mexico. A week later, he was back in Dallas and asked her to meet his family. The last three years that she has spent with John were nothing fake, and she feels betrayed. He never said sorry to her and has acted as if he didn’t do a single thing wrong.
“I thought I was going to marry this man,” she added. “I thought he was going to be my family. I thought we had a future.”
“My whole world has been turned upside down, and he doesn’t seem to care at all because he has dozens of other women that he’s been stepping out on the entire relationship, and I had no idea. I don’t know how I’m ever going to trust again, I don’t know how I’m ever going to love again after I’ve been stabbed in the back to this degree, my question to you all [is], how do I heal?”
Her life is a nightmare right now, and she doesn’t understand how she will ever recover from this or be the same.
What advice do you have for her?
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