He Told A Girl Who Rejected Him That They Couldn’t Be Friends Because He’d Always Look At Her As Someone He Couldn’t Be With
This guy is currently in college, and this past semester, he met a girl in one of his classes and thought she was really cute. So, they started talking, and he claimed that, from the beginning, he made his goal known.
“Making it clear from the start that my intentions were romantic rather than simply friendly,” he recalled.
He thought that she reciprocated his feelings, too. That’s why, just last weekend, he finally decided to ask her out.
But, to his surprise, she actually turned him down and said that he wasn’t her type. Still, he said that was “fair enough” and assured her that he didn’t have any hard feelings.
However, when the girl asked if they could remain friends, he felt forced to turn that down and admitted that he didn’t think it was a good idea.
The girl didn’t understand why, either, and he tried to explain how he never intended to have a platonic relationship.
He also thought he made that clear by blatantly flirting with her and asking her out within two weeks of them meeting each other.
“Additionally, I don’t think it would be a good friendship due to me wanting to be more than friends. I’ll see a girl I found attractive and could see myself with and get a constant reminder I won’t and can’t be with her, and I feel like that would create a bad dynamic for the both of us,” he added.
Well, rather than understanding his perspective, the girl just became really angry and claimed that she had value beyond just being a romantic interest.
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She also went off about how sick and tired she was of men who didn’t value her for her personality or want to be friends with her.
Now, he actually understood her frustrations and didn’t think there was anything “wrong” with her personality.
“I just don’t think a friendship where fundamentally one of the parties feels they’re ‘settling’ for friendship will be a productive or healthy friendship,” he vented.
Nonetheless, with the girl now upset with him, he’s been left wondering if refusing to be friends with her after he got rejected was really so unreasonable or not.
Can you understand why he doesn’t think he’d be able to have a healthy relationship with this girl? Is it good that he was upfront and honest about that? Should he have handled this situation any differently or not?
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