She Wanted An Open Marriage Then Accused Her Husband Of Cheating And Now Her Friend Is Asking The Internet If She’s The Worst For Reminding This Woman She Reaped What She Sowed
A young woman revealed that her 30-year-old friend Bella brought up to her 28-year-old husband Mike that she wanted to have an open marriage.
Bella apparently told Mike that she had spent some time considering this, and she felt that having an open marriage was the sole way to keep their relationship going.
Bella said she loved Mike, but she did not feel fulfilled in their marriage. Mike was not on board with an open marriage, but he reluctantly agreed out of fear of losing Bella forever.
“Backstory here is that Bella and Mike have known each other since middle school but only started dating in college at which point Bella had a lot more experience in relationships,” this young woman said.
“Mike has told me he’s always felt like he was one step behind her in most things but that their marriage really worked and he was very happy with her.”
“…I think Mike didn’t expect Bella to actually go through with the open relationship idea she had proposed.”
3 months ago though, Bella revived the idea of having an open marriage, and she laid down a few rules with Mike on going through with it.
Recently, Bella called up this young woman well after midnight, crying. Bella told her that Mike had cheated.
Obviously, this young woman was confused, because she knows Mike very well and he never would cheat on Bella.
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Bella then says to her that Mike was out on a date and did not come home. This young woman pointed out to Bella that they had an agreement on an open marriage.
Bella, through tears, tells her that she hasn’t gone on any dates with other guys because her work schedule has been so crazy.
Mike did go this date, and he did not give Bella any details on this other woman because that was part of the arrangement; Mike and Bella would not trade details with one another.
Bella explained she felt ridiculed by everything, and this young woman really only had one thing to say to her.
“I didn’t really know what to say and just told her “well, honey, I think you just reaped what you sowed, honestly.” She’s furious with me and screamed at me for being an awful friend to her, that I should understand how she feels,” she continued.
“I kept quiet but honestly, I think she’s just upset that her husband is doing what she proposed in the first place?”
When she did get a chance to catch up with Mike, he told her that he had a wonderful evening on his date, but when he got home, Bella was screaming at him.
Now Mike is left feeling confused and guilty, and he ended up sleeping on this young woman’s couch for the evening.
She and Mike spoke, and she insisted Bella was acting hypocritical. She also told Mike he really needs to speak with Bella about everything.
“Unfortunately Bella isn’t talking to either of us right now. I’ve asked her sister to please go talk to her, and she just texted me “Bella is being dumb as hell right now” back.”
“I hope they’ll be able to have a proper conversation tomorrow. Mike isn’t doing all that well with all this, understandably.”
Here’s what the internet had to say.
“People always seem to be down for open relationships until they remember their partner can have an open relationship too.”
“Yep, that was my ex husband. Was all cool for it, until I actually started getting more interest from men than he was getting from women (I said to him that if he wasn’t being faithful, neither should I have to be). Suddenly the open relationship wasn’t a good idea any more.”
“I have been in an open relationship for nearly 2 decades and fully support freedom of choice. You would be surprised, I have seen them destroy couples more often than I have ever seen them succeed!”
“Most people use it as an excuse to cheat without consequences but fully expect their spouse to not utilise that freedom.”
“She didn’t expect him to actually sleep with other people. She just wanted to sleep with others without it being considered cheating.”
“She’s really ridiculous and I’m on Mike’s side for this one. She wanted an open relationship, so that’s what she got lol.”
“Yeah, when I first read that Bella was proposing the open relationship, I figured the result would be a divorce or an affair disguised as an open relationship.”
“The fact that she got this upset over Mike going along with the deal speaks volumes about how much [or rather, how little] Bella actually cares about their marriage.”
You can read the rest of the advice the internet had for her here.
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