Her Boyfriend Just Revealed To Her That He Hasn’t Proposed To Her Since She’s Too Fat
This 26-year-old girl has been with her 26-year-old boyfriend for five years now. She says that she is technically overweight, and she has been since she met her boyfriend.
Throughout the last few years, she has gained approximately 100 pounds, and it’s because of her depression as well as a chronic illness she’s battling.
“I have been working to lose weight and even seeking help from doctors for weight loss meds/surgery because my illness makes it nearly impossible to lose weight on my own,” she explained.
“This has really affected my mental health and is a big reason for my depression worsening.”
“However, he always made it a point to reassure me that he supports me and loves me either way and loves my body.”
When she and her boyfriend hit the two-and-a-half-year mark of their relationship, she began hinting to him that she would really like to get engaged to him.
She sent him a few photos of engagement rings that she liked as well to back up her subtle hints.
Three years into their relationship, she decided to tell her boyfriend to his face that she would like to marry him.
“It ended up becoming a cute thing between us, and I would say it multiple times a day as another way to say, “I love you,” she said.
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But then, in their fourth year of dating, she realized that she was feeling hurt that her boyfriend had still not chosen to propose to her.
When she did bring it up to him, he would claim he didn’t have the money to buy her a nice ring, or he would also tell her he wanted to wait to propose in the best way.
She did understand those reasons as to why her boyfriend was dragging his feet, and she was happy to wait for him since she does love him.
However, within the last several months, her boyfriend started to get irritated when she would bring up getting married to him.
She stopped saying it, and as their five-year anniversary approached, it hit her that he was not going to be proposing to her anytime soon.
This brings us to now, and she has been really having a difficult time managing her depression, to the point where it has been negatively impacting her work life and home life.
She called out of work for a handful of days as she worked with her therapist and doctor to get back on track.
As she was dealing with all of this, her boyfriend asked her how committed she was to trying to lose some weight.
He then said there isn’t anything necessarily wrong with how she looks, but he doesn’t intend to marry someone who will end up with health problems and die a decade later.
In response, she began sobbing as her boyfriend spent the next 10 minutes trying to calm her back down.
“I honestly feel devastated,” she continued. “All my fears were confirmed in an instant. How could someone love a mess like me?”
“I feel like I have no right to be upset because he is right. It’s not fair to him that the person he loves and wants to spend the rest of his life with is likely to die young unless they lose weight.”
“I just can’t help but feel like he was being inconsiderate in the moment when he knew I was really struggling. I also can’t help but be distant now, which makes me feel even more like a villain when I know it came from a genuine place in his heart, even if he just approached it wrong.”
Do you think she should break up with him over this?
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