He Just Found Out That He May Have Accidentally Fathered A Child Eight Years Ago While Visiting Germany, But He’s Refusing To Choose A Child He Doesn’t Know Over His Wife And The Family They’ve Already Built
Back when this 30-year-old man was just 22, he spent a month in Germany. And while he was there, he hooked up with a woman named Siya, who is now 35.
At the time, their relationship was completely casual, and they made sure to be safe. Then, they parted ways, and he didn’t hear from Siya again.
Well, that was until about two weeks ago when she found him on Instagram and decided to reach out.
“I only took up Instagram very recently,” he clarified.
And once Siya was able to track him down, she gave him some shocking news: he had a son.
Apparently, she was unable to tell him prior to two weeks ago because she didn’t have his address to send a letter. He also wasn’t on any social media platforms, and his phone number was inactive.
So now, he’s finally found out the truth, and Siya wants him to both meet his son and become a father.
“But the thing is, I have a family here,” he said.
About five years ago, he tied the knot with his wife, and they’ve since had two children together. So, it’s not like he can just up and leave his current family to be a father to his first son, who he just found out about.
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“I love my wife very much, and she would be heartbroken if she got to know this,” he added. “I can’t lose my family over this.”
That’s why he wound up telling Siya that he just couldn’t be there for her or her son. In his mind, he doesn’t even know the boy. Plus, he has no clue if the child is really his.
He realizes that the timeline does technically “check out.” However, he and Siya were never exclusive or in an official relationship; instead, they were just casually hooking up, and he knew that Siya could have seen other men if she wanted to.
“And I just cannot lose my family and life I have built over a kid that may or may not be mine,” he admitted.
Once he shared his honest thoughts with Siya, though, she was absolutely furious. She began sending him angry text messages in all caps, claiming that he had a responsibility to his child.
But while he didn’t deny that, he pointed out how he also had a responsibility to care for his current family.
“The ones who know me as their dad. I cannot choose her kid over my kids here,” he vented.
Still, Siya just accused him of being a complete jerk for saying that. So now, he’s been left wondering if choosing his family over the child he never knew about is really the wrong thing to do.
How would you feel if you received the same news? Can you understand why he isn’t willing to leave or hurt the family he’s already built? What should he do in this situation?
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