Her Disabled Husband Cheated On Her, So She Wants To Divorce Him, Leaving Him With Nobody To Be His Caregiver

Being a caregiver to a family member with a disability is one of the greatest acts of selflessness and love there is. So if you were devoted to your disabled spouse as their caregiver, only to find out they were cheating on you, would you leave?

This 54-year-old woman has a husband a decade older than her, and they have been married for more than 20 years. Recently, her husband had an emergency quadruple bypass surgery, and she was terrified of losing him.

While her husband hasn't been exactly loving or kind to her, he's still her spouse, and she's been with him all the way. She took their vows seriously.

"He has had a lot of health issues, and after his quadruple bypass, he went septic. It was touch and go for a few weeks, and he finally got sent home to recover," she explained.

"I received training on how to give him his medication, which was inserted through a port they put in his chest. Every day for 7 weeks, I carefully gave him his medicine through the port and took care of him."

"I was doing everything in the home, working, taking care of our dogs, and taking care of a sick parent. I was hardly sleeping, but I thought marriage is in sickness and in health. So I did everything that was needed."

Her husband slept in a different bedroom because of his health complications, and one night she was having trouble sleeping, so she got up to go check on him.

He was scrolling TikTok on his phone, and she had noticed he was using the app a lot but thought he was just trying to stay entertained while recovering.

But she had a bad feeling that night. The following morning, she went through his phone and found tons of messages on TikTok that he had sent to other women.

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"[In] one of the messages, he told the woman that, 'She was the most beautiful woman he had ever seen.' She never responded, but I was angry and heartbroken," she added.

"I confronted him, and he tried to deny it. I showed him the screenshots, and I told him I wanted out. He begged for me to forgive him. He stopped using TikTok, but it wasn't enough for me. I hung in there because of how sick he was. He wasn't too sick to cheat."

"[As] I mentioned before, he is a difficult person. He is verbally abusive and is almost always in a bad mood. I am someone who believes in marriage and the commitment I have made to this man."

She can't say that the last two decades with her husband have been entirely awful, as they have had some nice moments sprinkled in there too.

She's just furious that her husband has since tried to gaslight her into believing he wasn't actually cheating on her, and now she is ready to file for divorce.

She can't tell any of her loved ones about this, and she's not trying to get revenge. She views the divorce as an act of self-preservation because, on top of the messages to other women, she's sick and tired of how mean her husband is to her, and she's done.

"I haven't left him because he is disabled and unable to care for himself. He does have his parents and siblings that he could turn to," she continued.

"But because he is so difficult, they keep their distance. Am I a jerk for wanting to leave him?"

Wow, talk about biting the hand that feeds you! Her husband obviously doesn't appreciate her bending over backward for him. She absolutely should get a divorce and live her best life without him.

It's really not her problem that she will be leaving him without a caretaker; that's on him to figure out now. She has been nothing but devoted and dedicated to her, and it's a shame he didn't show her the same respect. But oh well, you reap what you sow in the end.

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