She Let Her Boyfriend Know That He Isn’t Allowed To Spend Christmas With Her And Her Kids This Year Because He Always Ruins It For Them
A 34-year-old woman has a 49-year-old boyfriend who she says completely and utterly hates Christmas with all of his heart.
He hates the holiday so much, in fact, that he’s gone out of his way to ruin her last 4 Christmases in a row “by being mean.”
“Whether it’s moaning about hating the festivities or saying it’s pointless because his family isn’t there (mum passed away 25 years ago, father 8 years ago), it actually boils down to a very depressing case of money,” she explained.
Now, she grew up poor, and she still is poor. She knows that money cannot buy her happiness, so it doesn’t bother her that she doesn’t have a lot of money.
She has 3 children who are teenagers, and then she has a 2-year-old baby that she had with her boyfriend.
She lives in a house that she bought herself, along with all of her kids, and she works incredibly hard to make sure that she can pay all of her bills.
Although she does not expect her boyfriend to help, he pretty much totally takes advantage of her.
Her boyfriend is retired, and he has done well for himself in his career. Unfortunately, his success is the source of his meanness.
Her boyfriend also is stingy because of his money too, interestingly enough.
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For example, he refuses to use any electricity at his home, even though he has a wind-powered generator that he happens to also make money off of.
He won’t ever purchase food for himself and prefers to eat the food that she buys in her house.
He also always uses her van and car to get around and won’t pay for gas or stop to put some in.
Her boyfriend also won’t help pay for the maintenance costs on her cars or help pay for repairs if her cars need that.
“He expects me to pay for everything, and so far, I have, with minimal complaint because I’m always worried about being a financial burden or not being worth the expense (I’m working on these issues, and I know he uses them to his advantage),” she said.
“Now, though, Christmas is approaching. This Christmas is my last with my children all together for a while. The two eldest have applied to university, and both are likely to get in.”
Her two oldest children are planning on spending their Christmas breaks at college after they start going, and as for her third youngest child, he’s considering spending next Christmas with her ex-husband.
She really wants this upcoming Christmas to be special for all of them since they won’t be together for every holiday going forward.
“For us, Christmas is spending the day together eating the best food we’ve had all year (homegrown mostly, homemade everything), usually digging out the old PS console, the Wii, and generally having a good laugh in front of the fire. It’s about family and love,” she continued.
“For my partner, it’s about how much he had to spend on stuff he personally doesn’t get the benefit from.”
“So I formally invited him this year, but told him that if there was ANY moaning about money, or how much he hates the hypocrisy of it all, or grumbling about waste (other people’s, not ours, we waste NOTHING haha!) he wouldn’t be allowed to come.”
She’s left wondering if it’s rude of her to tell her boyfriend that he’s not allowed to come to Christmas with her and her kids if he decides to ruin it.
Do you think she’s justified in laying down the law this year?
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